DID I OVER DO IT?????

Question

to make a long story short i've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and i am his first real girlfriend although he had sex with over 300 girls before me. He has never given me a reason to not trust him until yesterday when i found a necklace in my drawer in his apartment. A week ago when we were having sex he kept itching his head and acting as if something was on his mind and i felt he had sex with someone but the point is he kept saying he doesn't know where the necklace came from. Like im crazy so i bleached 6 of his collectiable shirts and broke 2 of his collectiable mugs. His friends came over and wanted me to calm down and for us to talk. I left my boyfriends house before he came home and he hasn't called me since.
PS he has lied to me before about stupid things and his friends had sex with girls in the house on our bed.
Is it really over is he going to call, we had something special and im soooo sadddddd

Answer 1

Hi. I am sorry to hear about your question, but there are many factors here that are very wrong, and it stems from your man.'
First of all, his number of sexual partners is astronomical. That is a clue right there that something is highly wrong with your man. I do not understand why he has slept with that many people. I am guessing there is something in his life that he has been missing since childhood. I am also assuming that he has had a very rough life.
You have to be verrrry careful who you get involved with in this lifetime. The fact his number of sexual partners is not normal should have scared you off in the first place. Men who have that many partners will never committ to anyone or anything. And to me it sounds like he has a psychological problem. Men are sexual beings by nature, and a lot of them have a few one night stands, but 300 people? Warning bells should have been going off in your head girl.
I pray to god you guys were both tested before you got involved with eachother. And hopefully you will have the sense to get tested again. I am sure your boyfriend has caught something in his lifetime, because you cannot do it with that many people and not get something.
I am also not shocked in the least that he cheated on you. A guy like this is never going to be satisfied. It sounds like he needs a new piece of booty every day of the week. Tell me how you think you guys have something special when he has bedazzled that many women? You are just another notch on the beltloop unfortunately.
I also believe he has no respect for you. Letting others have sex in your bed, and leaving his woman's trophy's around for you to find is just wrong. Sounds like he has a thrill of getting caught and does doesn't give a rip.
I recommend you get yourself together, and get a little bit of a backbone and some self esteem. Your life is gonna go nowhere real fast on a downward spiral. Do you want a family, to get married someday? Stick around with this guy, and he could ruin it for you. You ask for advice on here and you are going to get it. But you might be the type that defends this jerk till the very end no matter how horrible he treats you.
This guy could give you an STD. I bet he is the type who would never tell you if he is either carrying something or has had something. There are guys like that who will still sleep with girls knowing that they have herpes, etc. Also, cervical cancer is also a major problem, especially if you would like to have children together.
You deserve so much better. I would hope that you would not go back to a man that has cheated on you. That is low, and this guy, by the sounds of his emotional unstability, will NEVER change. You need to think of yourself as special, not him. I would consider it a Godsend if this jerk never called you again. So what if you acted psycho? He deserved it. You should definitely be happy that scumbag is out of your life.
We all live and love. There will be someone else that who will love and truley appreciate you and your beauty. It may take time, you may be hurt for a while, but in the end its worth it. Be single and discover yourself and what makes you happy.
Good Luck honey.

Answer 2

OMG! First mistake is getting with such a nasty guy! Have you been checked.. most likely he is carrying some type of disease. Get blood test and the whole works. He is obviously cheating on you. And another is that your dude has some serious mental issues.. a person who sleep with that many people has to be addicted to sex and/or maybe he was molested.. And his friends having sex in your bed.. disgusting.. buy new sheets.

And obviously not special at all. Your are number 400. Just another thing for him. Go find yourself a real man that doesn't need to spread his diseases to the rest of the world.

I feel sorry for ya!

Answer 3

Holy Moly!!! 300 girls, dang! I would say this to you. The guy obviously likes women and having sex with them. If you even have an incling that he's been unfaithful, you should TALK it over with him, not freak out, break stuff, bleach clothes, and leave and expect him to call you. If you really do want to talk, then call or go over and tell him your suspicion, and ask him if they are unfounded or not. Probably best to go in person, so you can watch his body language. You'll know in your heart if he's being truthful or not. As far as having something special, if he's cheating evidently your the only one who thinks so, cause' he wouldn't risk it if he felt the same. You deserve to be the one and only, especially being adult enough to overlook his past, and live in the now. I wish you luck.

Answer 4

The guy is a dirt bag. He didnt no know how that necklace got there, he just doesnt want to tell you.

I know it was special to you and that you are hurting, but you are obviously not special to him. He would have called you by now if he wanted to make up. He is probably releaved that it is over because he wasn't man enough to tell you himself.

His friends also sond like dirt bags.

I am so sorry girl. Stay strong though, I know it hurts alot.

Answer 5

I would take some time to really think. Given what you said he said about lots of women, it may be that he is not the right guy for you, or for any woman until he grows up.

Yes, you went too far by messing up his stuff. But the real problem is that this guy still sounds like a "playa" to me. Sit down and really think if he can ever give you or any woman the commitment you seek.

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but you asked. Good luck.

Answer 6

No, sound like you're just feed up with his bull.He doesn't sound like a trust worthy individual especially letting his friends have sex in ya'lls house and on "ya'lls bed" that is so gross and disrespect to you. Maybe what you can do is ask his friends if any of the girls that they brought to your house that week lost anything, if one of them say yes tell him to describe it in detail to you, if he say he's not to sure how the necklace looks than tell him to ask the girl how it looks.(that way you know he's not lying for your bf)

Answer 7

If he had already had sex with 300 women before he met you... then why on earth would you want to be number 301, aren't you worried about diseases?? I'm not suggesting anyone should be a virgin, but 300 sexual partners is just wayyy too many for anyone.

Answer 8

I know it might be hard...going through something like that is never easy. But deep down don't you think that you deserve to be with somebody that you know is going to tell the truth? If he hasn't called he is obviously feeling guilty over something. If I were you, I would move on and show him that you were too good for him.

Answer 9

You said his friends have had sex with girls on your bed, so the necklace might belong to one of those girls... Did you think about that??
Also, don't you think 300 is a HUGE... GIGANTIC number?
If it was just sex with soooooooooo many other girls, how can you be sure that its some special with you??
Do you think at all?

Answer 10

Sad? Baloney. A sad person doesn't destroy anther's possessions.
You made your own bed, now lay in it.
By the way, he ain't worth the effort. How do you know he hasn't said exactly the same thing to every one of those 300 girls?