A few days ago I decided to tell a friend I loved her. The only thing is she told me she thought of me as a really good friend and nothing else, she also told me she liked someone else. The problem is I can't stop thinking about her, and don't want to give up. What do I do now?
2007-03-23 03:44:33 · 20 answers · asked by Matthew H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hold on as long as you think is good.
if you love someone you arent gonna get over tham right away
2007-03-23 03:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew,
My heart bleeds for you. There is nothing more crushing and devastating than to reveal your feelings to someone who does not feel the same. All I can say is try to keep your feelings from destroying the friendship. I am sure she will be a little more distant for awhile, but hang in there. Since she told you directly that she does not have romantic feelings for you, there is nothing you can do to MAKE her. Any attempts will be futile and will push her farther away from you. I hope you can find peace within yourself and then at some point you are able to move on - Without losing your friendship. Who knows what the future holds, at some point she might change her mind, but you don't want to be sitting around like a puppy dog with your life on hold. Que sera, sera! What will be, will be. Best of luck to you...
2007-03-23 03:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tommithesupermom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, give her some space (for a considerable while – a month or so) and when you do have contact try to act normal. Continue being pleasant to her – she may then realise what she is missing out on but respect the fact she likes someone else and do not try to come between that.
In future, I would refrain from telling someone you love then until you are both committed in a relationship. Just invite them out for a movie, lunch, gallery and then as the friendship develops, dinner, theatre…then…then…when you know you absolutely click and she is responding positively to your advances, you may think of being open about your feelings. Generally, do not tell a girl you love her in the first 9 months of dating. Before then, you barely know her and she knows that!
2007-03-23 04:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if she really thinks of u as a friend, then so be it. But never forced her to like u and 2 go out w/u. REspect her decision and move on. Maybe she's not the the girl that ur really lookin 4, right? There's some1 there that's 4 u. Just get to know them 1st. If she's the type of girl that u were looking 4. then there, u can make ur move.
2007-03-23 03:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by May Ann F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...hang on to all your old great memories my friend...and enjoy them only when you're having a nice warm refreshing reflective moment. Take all the negative exposures and anxious crap, and dump em into the dumpster of lifes old news experiences.Toss all the uneasy feelings...and go out and create for yourself in the present...some new and everlasting enjoyable ones. Living in the past recently just leaves you standing still. (stuck) Pull your tires out of the mud my friend,...and go out and get squeaky clean with some new and some gorgeous friendly women dude. You can't force your indulged mental love on anyone partner....so don't even try to in the first place. Love isn't supposed to be work here for ya partner. It's absolutely supposed to be pleasure. Stop drinking from the fruits of your past my friend...and start drinking from the fountain of your beautiful future. Get busy right now my friend...cause the world doesn't sit around waiting for anyone reasonably. Pick yourself up...and put yourself ON...cause tomorrow never comes...and yesterday is just simply that...it's yesterday. Need I say more really?
2007-03-23 04:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately just because you love someone doesn't mean that they will love you back. It's a very painful thing to go through but you have got to keep her as a friend or you may end up loosing her all together.
You don't know the future, she may end up with you anyway. Just be there for her as a friend, if you are good to her, she may see the kindness in you and fall in love with you someday. Keep you chin up sweets, life is not always this cruel.
2007-03-23 03:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by sylvie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, dont over do it cuz its just gonna kill u more and more.
Find something or someone to keep u busy. Think of things u dont like about her. And be glad u were not too in love with her cuz it could have been a lot worse. I just got out a relationship that I did end, and I just kept my time busy. I loved her, but I got back to my single life and I am glad I did.
So do activities, if seeing her would make u think more about her, dont see her. just take it one day at a time.
2007-03-23 03:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Americana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to just be her frind for a while and see how things go, she may start to see u as more than a friend now that she knows how you feel. on the other hand u may learn 2 accept that u r just going to be friends and nothing more.if neither of u can change ur mind, then u r just gona have to move on and forget this girl.hope it works out for u.
2007-03-23 03:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remove your brain and wash it with a bleaching agent. You'll forget everything you want to... Just kidding.
Look for someone else. Once you get the other one, she will help you get this one out of your mind. I don't think this one will ever consider you more than a friend!
Be brave, be a man and move on.
2007-03-23 04:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make people fall in love with you, if you thinks she might change her mind one day, stay in touch, or else it might be better to leave her alone and try and move on, try finding someone else you like:)
2007-03-23 04:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that the only girl you love for real. I know that hurts especially if the person doesn't feel the same way you do. Sounds like you're head over heals for dis girl.
2007-03-23 03:49:14 · answer #11 · answered by Salima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋