Well there is this guy I have known him since june. We used to work together.. He is really a sweet guy.. He buys me whatever I want and treats me with so much respect.. But I just want to be friends. Im 17 and he is 21..Hes in college and Im a senior in high school. He really likes me and wants to be more then friends. Even though I say that I just want to be his friend We fool around because I have NEEDS and so does he. But thats it.. I care alot for him he is really good to me But I know that I will hurt him so I am just going to be his friend. But my friends think Im leading him on just to get the things that I want And need. They feel Im palying him.. What do you think?
2007-03-23 03:34:25 · 10 answers · asked by sabrina w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel you 'll have the person that treats you so right and wish you cared about them in that kind of way. But you friends are right your only going to end up hurting him and in away you are playing him and if he as nice to you as you say he is you should leave it alone befor it get to out of hand and you loose a good friend!Tell him that your sorry in leading him. You want to be ONLY friends. It's not going to happen from day to night that he will forget you. ButYou need to give it time and space and then hopefully he can see you the same?
2007-03-23 03:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sometimes is not a matter of what your friends think it is about how you feel and think, if you feel that you are playing him just to get what you want and need, then you are and need to make some changes, if you feel that you are not then continue on and do what you were doing. If you only want to be friends with this guy then you need to be straight forward and tell him that you just want to be friends and that you hope that he is not upset and that you tried to tell him before but he was not listening. Tell him why you want to be friends with him and that maybe if there is a chance that in the future you might consider going out with him, but it won't be now, if you are going to be friend then you and him need to quit fooling around , because friends don't do that to start with.
2007-03-23 10:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have to agree with your friends because if you just want to be friends with him, you wouldn't accept what he gives you and you wouldn't have him do stuff for you knowing that you don't want to be with him like that. Not trying to make you feel bad or anything like that but don't you feel really bad for leading him on like that? I mean he is in college trying to get a better education and college is expensive so wouldn't you have a problem with receiving things from him? Also, what's the deal with NEEDS?! I mean you can control yourself and if you have needs they should be clothes, food, and shelter. What you are talking about is a WANT. If he is really a sweet guy like you say he is, why would you want to corrupt his mind like that leading him on? Don't turn a nice guy into someone that is going to be bitter toward women for how you treated him. Sit down face to face and talk to him and apologize because he will eventually catch on to the treatment that he is getting from you. Don't get him to buy you things and throw him to the side. You gotta consider his feelings too. Like I said before, not trying to make you feel bad or sound like a horrible person because your not but your actions could have harsh consequences if you don't take responsibility right now.
2007-03-23 10:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with your friends. You fool around with him, and you let him take care of you, yet you won't give him a commitment. Sounds to me like you are playing him. If you just want to be friends with him, than there should be no fooling around, and you shouldn't let him take care of you. If he buys something for a birthday or something, that's one thing, but if you borrow money, or say you need something and can't afford it, than you should repay him, because a boyfriend takes care of you, but a friend doesn't.
2007-03-23 10:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you are a friend with benefits, and I imagine he certainly loves that about you !!!!... and he's a college guy that might have other benefit friends there ,too. Maybe you are the one being played.
2007-03-23 11:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people form emotional attatchments thru sex. especially if they already like u. in my own opinion... i would cut him loose. u could hurt him more in the long run. and it does sound like your playing him a bit. what will happen to him, and how will he feel if u find someone your really into?
2007-03-23 10:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by airgemm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be happy to not be in a serious relationship but still gets to occasionally go out with you as well as go to bed with you. I would imagine he'd be quite satisfied with that :)
2007-03-23 10:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by thingfishy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're playing him.
You are allowing him to buy you things you want and using him for your "other needs."
You need to tell him what's up...bottom line.
2007-03-23 10:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a serious conversation w/ him. maybe he would settle for being friends w/ benefits.
2007-03-23 10:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are playing him , its about time guys see how it feel to be played.
2007-03-23 10:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by shelia b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋