How can I tell to my mother that I had sex???

Question

I have 1 year relationship!I am 20!
But she is narrow-minded!
She asking all the time... but I can't tell it!!!

It's funny!
She know it, but when she asks I feel shy!!!

Answer 1

Ask your mother if she knows any of her friends might be Lesbians.

She will freak and jump to the conclusion that you are also a Lesbian.

This will be your opportunity to reassure her that you aren't interested in any of her friends, and, actually, you have a sexual relationship with a very nice person.

Just slip that comment in while she is still in shock.

hahaha, Good Luck.

Answer 2

If she is asking all the time, she probably has a suspicion that you have had sex. When you tell her, it could be a relief to her that you are being honest as much as anything.

Her conservatism may be motivated in a large part from not wanting to see you get hurt. If you can assure her that you are taking precautions against pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease, that would help, but she still may be concerned about your emotional well being.

There could also be a moral issue from her perspective and there may be no way around that.

All of this depends on your relationship with your mother, but if you feel compelled to tell her, it is probably the dishonesty that is nagging at you. If you lied to her, you will have that to overcome, but if it is important to you to have an honest relationship with her, you may want to take the leap. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ask her about her sex life. Ask about her first time. Ask her if it was before or after she was married. Ask her what she thought about it that first time. What she thinks about it now. Did she do the right thing then based on what has happened in her life since. If she is reluctant to be honest with you, write her off as to talking about this subject for now and tell her your sex life is none of her business. Whether you have or not and when you do is not will not be be revealed to her unless she is open and honest to you about her sexual experience, so stop asking. Then stick to your guns.

On the other hand if she is quite open and honest tell her honestly about your behavior. Tell her times are different now. People are different. Expectations are different. You have to make your decisions based on different parameters than she did. You appreciate her advice and will try to do the right things to the best of your ability. But your life is your life and hers is hers. If you make mistakes you have to live with them. She has to get used to that and let you be your own person.

Your most happiness with sex, all things being equal, is best achieved by waiting for the right person that you will committ to for life, making that right choice in a mate and then both waiting until marriage. However, perfect and best is often not possible. Then you with the Lord's guidence must make the best out of reality that you can. Trust the Lord for guidance. He wants what is best for you. His way will be best. Read the 7th commandment in Ex 20. Also read what Jesus said while on this earth in the 4 gospels about lust. Those are meant as rules to life by to achieve the most happiness now and forever. They are their for your own good. How ever sinful we have been in the past we can put that behind us and start fresh with a clean record and go forward with a new committment to live sin and guilt free under the power and guidance of God.

Answer 4

You know you are an adult, what you do with your body is no longer your mother's concern. She has no right to ask you a question like that and frankly it's none of her business.

Why dose she even want to know? I wouldn't want to discuss that with my children or my mother. My mother and I have a mutual understanding. She knows I already cashed in my V card (via intuition) but she doesn't know with who, how often, or when, and that works just fine for us.

Bottom line don't tell her anything about your adult life that you don't want to... but don't go crying to her for help about it after wards either. If you want to share then go for it, make some tea sit her down at the table and just say, "Mom I thought you should know that my relationship with my Boyfriend has gone to the next level..." and take it from there.

Best of luck!

Answer 5

There is no easy way of doing it. It is like trying to get into a ice cold pool. You just jump in. Try saying, "Mom, you've asked me a question that I haven't been telling you the truth about." With that said, your Mom isn't going to let you off the hook. Just remember she is your mother, and she loves you. She wants only the best for you, and she maybe disappointed with your decision, but I'm sure she will still love you.

Answer 6

You're 20 years old; there is absolutely no need for you to share this with your Mother, as you are an Adult, and it is none of her business. Next time she asks, just tell her that whether you have had sex or not is none of her concern, as this is a private matter. It's not rude to tell her, and maybe she needs to be told to quit meddling in your life!

Answer 7

OK go like this.. "Mom .... I have had sex" If you feel like messing with her ... say "Mom I had sex when I was 12" when she freaks out of her mind let her know you were just kidding then tell her the truth.... Keep in mind I am a guy and older than you and I often give goofy advice.

Answer 8

Sorry, i find it very weird that she keeps asking you all the time about this. It's none of her business in the first place. It isn't like your 15 or 16. If you feel its important just come out and tell her.

Answer 9

You don't really have to tell her per se. Just say " Mom, I'm 20 years old, I have been with X for 1 year and we are in love ... what do you think? I am careful though , so don't worry. I assure you she'll get off your back .

Answer 10

Well first you have to make up your mind that you really want to tell her. If you do, then just sit her down and let her know that you want to talk like adults. Let her know that you respect her and how she feels. But you have to remind her that you are an adult and you made an adult decision to have sex(hopefully you took ever precaution necessary). And just assure her that you are taking care of yourself and you want to feel that you can be honest with her without her "being mom", so to speak.