My dad is 75 years old, he was 50 when I was born. He is becoming more and more difficult to deal with.?

Question

It seems he is never happy and is always griping about something...ususally money and how "things" should have been. Constantly complains to everyone!!!! I feel like blowing up at him and telling him to stop bringing everyone he meets down.GRRRR

Answer 1

I was curious about your question because I am going on 50 years of age and I still have a taste for the dames. I'm afraid I will meet some girl some day and somehow she gets pregnant. But, I wouldn't want to be source of unhappiness to anyone at any time, including when I am in my seventies or eighties.

He is lucky to have you. There may be a tendency to take each other for granted. We should always avoid harsh words especially with those close to us.

I have read that in Vedic culture people try to spend their whole life in preparation for a very spiritual retirement. They call it Vanaprastha and Sannyasa.

Perhaps both you and your Dad could see about getting involved in spiritual and educational concerns. Perhaps that will bring some happiness into your lives.

Answer 2

Try and get him interested in some things that will bring some laughter back into his life. Does he like to garden? You probably know some things that can spark his interests again so put your thinking cap on. Most 75 year olds don't sit around sulking much these days.

Answer 3

When people get older, their minds and bodies go. I think he's realizing his mortality because he's starting to deal with the health problems that comes with being that age and sees his young child and he's frustrated he can't keep up with her. I'm a nurse so I deal with these kind of patients. Lovingly let him know that you're there for him and that you want to enjoy the time you do have with him.

Answer 4

He is 75. He may be feeling the discomforts of old age and is not happy about the past. I guess you should try to minimize contact some and just try to be patient.

Answer 5

I hear ya sister! My Father was diagnosed with Temporal frontal lobe dementia. For years he was uncharacteristically angry all the time .... then we found out he was sick and it is all about being supportive.... soon he will be moving' on. So try to be aware of how stressful it must be getting older and knowing you are at the end of you life and try to enjoy him even if he is being a wiener. Deep breaths when he's pissing you off.

Answer 6

sweety , honest it his way of pushing you out, reason he know his tme is near,,,dad do this a lot when they know deat comeing ,it his way of trying to keep you from hurtting so bad,,,,he love you, an at 75.if my dad was a round , god i hug him every day , an tell him how much i love him,,,do let him push you a way,,, an please , do tell him, dad you may complain, but i still going to love you, , so you get ready fo it,, an then look him right in the eye an say,, well you not going to take it with you so enjoy it,,

Answer 7

Do it then!!! Maybe he needs a good wake up call...If he wants to complain all the time, give him something to complain about!!!

Answer 8

he is old, maybe stuff is just extra stressful for him. maybe you can ask him if there is something that you can do to help him. its sounds like you are 25 years old so maybe you can take some of his responsibilites off his shoulders. that could maybe help him not be so grumpy.

Answer 9

Damn! I thought I was bad, I think its because of the age just bear with him.

Answer 10

when men get older they get cranky. my dad was 61 when he had me he's 83 now they just get cranky