*John* was my first real boyfriend. I went out with him twice. Both times were great but extremely short-lived. I still think about our past and I wish it was the present. People tell me that I should just stop dwelling on things but it's hard not to when you miss the old *John.* He's changed so much now so the past is all I have of the old him.
2007-03-23 02:57:26 · 14 answers · asked by Showbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not knowing is terrible. A short lived relationship is not a good indicator of what might have been. You never know what could have happened between you and *John*. Its probably a good thing you guys never grew as a couple. A seed was planted in you that is still growing and you are constantly thinking of what might have been. You can't live like that. Stop watering this plant. You need water and sunshine to make it grow, not just water. You are drowning something that isn't responding to you. You have to accept what is, and what is, is that he is no longer in your life that way. Heck I have gone out on dates and the first 4 to 6 dates were awesome, but somewhere down the line, the true person came out and I didn't care much for that person. Past memories are great sometimes, but the best memories to have are the ones that you can share with someone that loves you and is always there for you.
2007-03-23 03:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can move forward to have a happy, fulfilled present or future if they are still stuck in the past. Forget about the past, live in the present and hope the best for the future. Don't let your past predict your present or your future. Remember that people come into your life at times for only a short time - when they are gone, that means their part in your life's journey has come to an end. Mourn them, then let them go and move on with your happiness. Life is short!!
2007-03-23 03:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will think about the past from time to time that's normal but not concentrating on the past is the key. Take what happened from the past and make sure you're not making the same mistakes now and in the future, other than that concentrate on where you want to be in life not what you've left behind.
2007-03-23 03:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The John you used to know no longer exists. Remember the good times, but move on to find someone that you can be happy with. It is not healthy to hang onto a short, past relationship. If you only went out twice he may have not really been what you thought he was to begin with. You can move on, because the past is over, your present is here.
2007-03-23 03:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by MimGregg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...understand that people do change my friend...and sometimes not to the way of our own liking. Do understand that we have no control over anyone elses sensibilities either. That stuff belongs to them outstandingly...and yours belongs to YOU! John might have been your first boyfriend babe...but I can pretty much guarantee he won't be your last one either. Have some nice memories of John darling...and then move on away from him darling. You conceivably can't change your past reasonably...but you can learn to affectively change your future. Learn to make good choices for yourself sweetie...and the rest will just come naturally to you otherwise. Learning from the past is pretty much an educational experience hun,...not one to be relived seriously. Learn from your imperfect mistakes and move forward darling. The rest will smell like roses in the springtime morning if ya do! Are we cool on all of this darling...or what?
2007-03-23 03:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it's best to keep him in the past. People do change and some, unfortunately, change for the worse. Memories are fantastic, but you shouldn't base your present on it. You deserve more than that. Move on and find someone who will love you in the here and now.
2007-03-23 03:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by shere143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, Its called life. The only thing you can do is either change with them, or change on your own path, in your own time. Personally, Id change on your own path, in your own time. Maybe fate has something else planned for you, dont let the past have such a huge hold on you. Move forward with YOUR life, its more important than this buy who isnt the same anymore. Good luck
2007-03-23 03:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest two things in this. Life is an ever changing thing, a dynamic thing. We must be able to keep pace with it. May be you are over-expecting from him though he is still the same. Other thing is that may be he has really changed, but if you love him, then you can make him notice such change and if its for good, you should be able to change him back to what you like in him.
2007-03-23 03:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by its m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday you waste thinking of a very short-lived relationship you are taking this time away from the present and the future. A quote from Judge Judy: "Put a period and go on with your life."
2007-03-23 03:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving on takes time, especially when you really care about someone. right now, you don't want to be with him, but you're holding on to something that isn't there anymore and that's not very healthy for you. trust me, i know. your best bet is to cherish those great memories you have of him and move on. don't NOT be his friend, just don't try & want him so much. distract yourself and it will make it much easier.
2007-03-23 03:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋