There is a new girl at work and we were talking about our kids. The subject of Santa came up. I said I didn't teach my son to believe in Santa.The woman said I was a bad mom because I didn't have my son believe.That is the most stupidest thing to fight over or I heard!What do you think honest answers was I wrong not to have him believe.Please explain your answers. PLEASE!!!!
2007-03-23 02:56:44 · 53 answers · asked by lisababyg ♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do apologize for my bad grammar.It seems to have upset so many of you.I have been up for about twenty hours now.I should have proof read my question before I submitted it.I usually do not have such bad grammar.It is way past my bedtime. Goodnight!
As for the new lady at work, i'm not worried about her.She can believe what she wants to believe about me.I know I'm a great mom!
Have a nice day!
2007-03-23 03:54:07 · update #1
She's crazy and she needs to learn to keep her mouth shut.
That doesn't make you a bad mother. It just means you teach your kids differently than some other moms. Everyone is different.
2007-03-23 02:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by ticktock 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course you are not a bad mom! It's your choice to teach your child what you believe is best for your family.
I personally do the whole Santa thing and don't really understand when a friend of mine who is some religion doesn't celebrate Christmas or birthdays etc. but you know what, he is a good dad and just because I don't agree with it, I would NEVER accuse him of being a bad parent, that's ridiculous.
Bad parents, beat, hurt their children or let them do things that is not in their best interest... not believing in Santa is not going to hurt your child!! There are many people who do it for different reasons!
Tell the new girl at work, that at least your raising a child who is open to different ideas and accepting of other beliefs without ridicule, unlike HER kids will turn out!!!!!!!!!
Jeez, I don't understand why moms need to hate on other moms. I guess your question really pushed a button.
2007-03-23 03:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many, Many kids believe in Santa when they are young. I believed up until I was ten. Your son is going to go to school, and around christmas - they are going to be doing projects and other things related to Santa. He's going to probably feel left out never hearing about Santa. You're the mother. You can do whatever. I'm just saying as a child, I was never hurt or angry when I found out Santa didn't exist.
Also, your son may be one of those kids who scream out infront of class that Santa isn't real. A lot of parents will be upset with you. My dad was upset when that happened in my school. Too many kids are told so young that santa doesn't exist. It takes the fun out of imagination. I loved believing in Santa.
2007-03-23 05:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own ideas for raising their own children, I myself would not call you a bad mother. I have 3 children of my own, and they all at some point in time "believed" in Santa. Of course now my 14 and 12 year old daughters do not believe in Santa, but i still have an 8 yr. old son that believes in him. It's just some of the simple little joys i had watching my kids grow up in life, counting down the days until Christmas, and then running into my bedroom at weee hours of the morning waking me up so they could show me what "Santa" brought them.
2007-03-23 03:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad mom at all. I commend you.
We don't play the Santa game at our house either, though I've taught my kids to be sensitive to others. We do tell the story of St. Nicholas and tell the fable of Santa Claus, but never frame it in the context of a real person. I've always felt that Santa Claus, as currently used, is a tool for commercialism and self-indulgance. Most certainly takes away from the religious significance of the holiday - truly making your kids believe in something completely made up at a time when you're trying to make them believe in something very real is a contradiction. Does this mean that kids can't tell the difference - of course not. Kids can explore their imagination and sense of wonder without being purposefully deceived.
With some parents I've had to deal with, you'd think not instilling Santa Claus was blasphemy. Pretty sad.
Remember that for kids Santa Claus isn't about imagination and fantasy - they truly do believe it. They are deceived.
2007-03-23 03:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not a bad mother! I can think of far worse things that mothers do to their kids (my cousin tells her kids that when the ice-cream van is playing music it means he's out of ice-cream, lol).
Sometimes kids expect too much from Santa and it leaves parents broke at Christmas time... kids don't realise that Santa's gifts cost money, and Santa can't always get them a pony or a bike.
I let my 3-year old think there's a Santa for now (we call him Father Christmas) but I also let him know that it's mummy who pays for the presents, Father Christmas just drops them off (like a delivery man).
2007-03-23 03:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were wrong. Thousands and thousands of children of different religions and cultures living in the states don't believe so why should your son be expected to. I remember how devistated I was when I found out my parents had lied to me about him being real. I just had my son 9 weeks ago and I don't plan on having him believe either. I don't like the idea of lying to my children. I don't think Christmas is about Santa anyway! Tell that woman to kiss it!
2007-03-23 03:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Erica J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your views on Santa. However, I wonder why this lady would think calling you a bad mom would get her into anyone's good graces at her new job? I'd watch my back around her. She sounds like a moron and morons are always bad for morale. Bottom line: It's your decision what you raise your kids to believe in (or not believe in ) and her opinion doesn't count.
2007-03-23 03:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to teach your child whatever you want. Some people just have different beliefs. Maybe it is easier to teach him know that Santa is only a myth rather than some kid at schools tells him. Don't worry about what other people say. He is your son and you can teach him whatever you want.
2007-03-23 03:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by LIZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its nice to see your kids get excited over Santa.Eventually they find out on their own he doesn't exist.She should of not have said your a bad mother. It all depends on how you want to raise your son. If you chose not to teach him to believe there's nothing wrong with that. Its just nice to see your kids believe in him. Everybody has their own opinion. Don't worry about it. As long as you teach your son good values and to be a good person. I think that's all that really matters.
2007-03-23 03:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every family believes different things, I don't think it makes you a bad parent. I do think your son will miss out on a lot of the fun of childhood though. I have a son and I think I am just as excited on Christmas morning as he is, to see him get everything Santa brought. His face just lights up. And that makes my day. I don't think it makes you a bad mom though. I know people who do not celebrate Santa, they just didn't want to lie to their children.
2007-03-23 03:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Jenn C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋