met a guy around 9 months ago.We gelled & clicked right from the start , like best friends as well as lovers..But i discovered over time that this guy was a classic commitment phobic. He use to say that all of his ex's were too needy etc but I actually think it was him as he is very immature & erratic for age 28!!. during the space of time he had messed me about with broken promises due to his inability 2 commit. I am trying to movin on as he hurt me so bad, messed me about. I don't ever call him! He is still calling me after 2-3 months. He called me a few days ago telling me that he misses me, my company,someone to liase & laugh with & asked me to come & see him so i went (no sex involved) He was just talkin to me saying that he does think he made a mistake letting me go, but that he wasn't ready and still isn't! so he is still just a waste of time! he said he isnt ready 4 a relationship with anyone right now. Another is he owes me around 800.00 which is payed in my account monthy
2007-03-23 02:41:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but still keeps finding excuses to try and ring me about it!! what to do?
I changed my number and he has somehow got my new one, i don't know how!! I was shocked when I saw it ringing with his number. I need to change it again as he is an *** and he messed me about am I right?i just don't think I can be friends with this guy.. and he can't understand it!! Do I cut him off now!! as I feel crap after I speak to him, but miss him when I don't talk to him!!
2007-03-23 02:43:38 · update #1
Just walk away lady he is trouble.
2007-03-23 02:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very straight forward with him and tell him you understand how he feels, yet at the same time you do not feel the same. Tell him you are looking for a good person to settle down with and that you feel he is holding you back and that you no longer wish to have any contact with him. Be very blunt and straight forward and do not allow him to change your mind. You have a good head on your shoulders and good instincts about what you want. Learn from the mistake that you made with him and keep moving forward. Also tell him if he contacts you in any way that you will take steps and get a restraining order against him.
2007-03-23 09:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What a complicated situtation. For a guy that's a complete commitment-phobe, he sure is tenacious, isn't he? I think you need to tell him that when he's really serious to settle down, you'll talk to and be with him, but until then, you don't appreciate the fact that he's hurting you so much and disrupting your way of life.
2007-03-23 09:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by shere143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a committment and he doesn't then there is nothing left to talk about. You both need to find someone more suited to you. As far as the money, you should ask for it back. If you loaned it to him then he owes you. If it was a gift then you don't get it back. Don't forget about it unless you just have 800 dollars to throw away.
2007-03-23 09:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop answering your phone. Simple. Ignore him completely. As far as the money is concern, either forget about it, and learn your lesson---Never give large sums of money to someone your merely dating! Or take him to small claims court. If you don't want him in your life, then don't allow him to come into it! You are feeding him the need to call you, by you answering your phone or emails or anything.....
2007-03-23 09:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to piss off, get a restraining order, and tell him you'll let the 800.00 (pounds?) go unless he won't leave you alone, in which case you'll take him to small-claims court.
2007-03-23 09:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋