There are obviously numerous reasons why I shouldn’t. Her age is the biggest. She is only 16. Plus I am not sure how comfortable my friend will be with the situation.
She is very mature for her age and I have been spending a lot of time with her over the past year, on account I work for her dad at their house. We get on like a house on fire, always chatting and laughing. I am positive she feels the same way I do; we accidentally touch each other, hands coming together when stroking the dog, legs touching when sitting next to each other, that kind of thing. I try and keep it subtle as I don't want her family finding out just yet.
So, do I tell her how I feel? Hope that her family understands, or let her go and try and move on. She is only 16; she has sixth form, University ahead of her. I've done all that. I don't know, I just know I love her.
2007-03-23 02:40:57 · 15 answers · asked by Jack S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just thought I should that I live in the UK where the AOC is 16.
2007-03-23 02:52:05 · update #1
Keep dreaming.
2007-03-23 02:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 16 is awfully young when you are 21. I don't know what the drinking age and such is over there, but here it is 21. So, while you are out with your buddies and such, she has to stay home. Sure, it doesn't seem like a big deal, but it will to her later..believe me, been there done that. Also, you need to talk to your best friend about ALL of this first. If he isn't comfortable with it, than you have to decide if you want to lose a friend or not. You really need to sit back and think about this before making a move. Good Luck
2007-03-23 09:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by hokeygurl019 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would talk to my friend about it the one who's sister it is. But tread lightly, just start out by saying what do you think about your sister dating one of your friends? Tell them how highly you think of her, but that you don't want to ruin a friendship or make the dad (boss) upset either.
This could be a total wreck of your friendship, your work, and dating her if it doesn't work out in the long run.
She is still young, even though she has demonstrated that she is mature, she has dreams to follow still, and you would have to accept them as they come, like you said you have already been there.
You could always tell her you would like to date her, but that you think it would be best if you both waited til she was at least 18, that way you will know if your feelings are genuine, and hers, because you don't want to ruin your friendship with her or your friend, or the job you have.
It may seem like along time, but it isn't if the feelings are genuine.
2007-03-23 09:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a good guy your buddy should have no problem with it.
I would give her time to grow up a bit. IF you really love her two or more years will not reduce how much you love her.
If you're sure she feels the same then tell her parents that you have interest and want to make them aware that you understand the age difference yada yada yada.
2007-03-23 10:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 16!!! You are an adult, and remember this..if she gets pregnant, that is called statutory rape...There are some lines not meant to be crossed, and this is one of them. Most guys I know, would not approve of their friends' dating or having a relationship with their sisters...How much do you value your job, and your friendship with your best friend, who happens to be her brother?? Find someone your own age..she has alot of years ahead of her to live her life...You said she has the University thing ahead of her?? You've done it already? Now it is her turn...or wait till she is 21.....
2007-03-23 09:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sod your friend...if you love her ASK HER PARENTS. Yeah..this may seem odd but they will be the sticking point. If they are cool with it your friend will v probably be too. You work for her Dad? So you wait for a point alone with him and spill th beans to him first. Explain how you feel, that your serious and what your concerns are. Tell him you can wait if he thinks thats necessary. Make him know your not just gonna hurt his precious daughter. Work it from there. I think most Dads would respect you for doing that.
2007-03-23 09:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Danny B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you respect her and family she is way to young and you wait till she is of legal age and if you feel the same and the moon and stars are aligned you tell her how you feel and that you have been waiting for her... keep being a good friend and give her time to mature fully
2007-03-23 09:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel.If u realy do love her the age shouldnt make a difference to her if she loves you back.Ask her straight out if ur still not convinced think :
Do you love her ?
Will you care for her ?
Will you respect her intrests?
Do you care what your mate thinks if you love her so much ?
Would you tell her every day how much you need her and how much she means to you ?
If u just answered yes to 3 of those questions you should go for it !
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2007-03-23 09:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by So confused but together 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang back until she's a little older. That's a big can of worms, my friend. Best leave it closed for another year or so.
2007-03-23 09:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cuz yal get together doesnt mean that she cant still go to school. but yes i would talk to her. tell her how your feel and if yall deside to go out and u dont think that any one would like it then just keep it a secret for now. why does every one need to know. this is yall not them. but i mean u cannt help who u love
2007-03-23 09:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by slick_chik316 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋