My girlfriend has a low sex drive and she hardly ever wants to have sex. She knows that I love having sex with her though. I wine her and dine her, bring her roses every week, take her here take her there, cuddle with her for hours on end, and so on. I've asked her if there's anything else I can do to make her happy but she always says everything is fine. I'm losing a lot of sleep over this. I love her and sex is not everything in a relationship but I would like to have more than I'm having with her, and we're not even married yet. I'm starting to have some second thoughts now about marriage. Please help. Thanks.
2007-03-23 02:39:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some women have VERY low sex drives...I being one. It doesn't matter if we are fully 100% in love with the person, sometimes we just don't want it. And, when we don't want it, sometimes it can hurt. Sit her down, face to face, and talk to her. You may be surprised at what she says. Just asking her if everything is fine isn't a way to know for sure what is going on. You need to let her know you really do care, and not just about the sex.
One other thing...wineing and dineing her sometimes can make her think that you are doing it just to get sex. She won't give you sex just because you buy her things and cuddle with her. She may be thinking you are only doing this stuff to get sex. Therefore, make her think you are doing it for no reason at all...
Talking to her is the best option right now though..
2007-03-23 02:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by hokeygurl019 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can sympathise with you ma Friend but ask your self this can i live with this forever?i don't doubt you have a great relationship but the sex thing is a big part of any relationship and take it from me when you tie the not things get even further a feild so think long and hard about your dilemma the old visits to the lady garden get shorter and less frequent see you on the other side !!!!!
2007-03-23 09:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by jackmeeko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to her about it. I don't mean the simple " is there anything else that I can do for you." You have to be direct. Tell her what you are noticing about your relationship and what you don't like about it. Tell her what you want and see what her position is. You need to get your feelings out in the open so that you two can make some adjustments. If you need sex and she can't give it to you then you should rethink the relationship.
2007-03-23 09:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows man, women are very strange. its possible that everything is alright , but its possible too that she doesnt feel having sex with you because she feels that she is not in love with you. try to make your SELF happy not her!!! and i mean really happy !!and good living!
2007-03-23 09:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by histvel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't jive at sex. Your not gonna be happily married!
2007-03-23 09:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you can have girlfriend on the side.
2007-03-23 09:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋