what is the best way to minimize shyness?

Answer 1

You should move force yourself to move out of your comfort zone! Then congratulate yourself for it.

Answer 2

Set mini-goals for yourself when you are in public gatherings. I used to have the same problem until I started doing this. Soon I didn't have to do this & lost my shyness.

What you do is set up a little list of things you can do (in your mind or on a little piece of paper if necessary) in order to keep from just standing holding up a wall feeling self-conscious.

For example, list individual questions or subjects that you might need to discuss at another time anyway, with specific people (like at church), obtaining a drink, another time later (stretching the things out for more things to do throughout the time), getting an appetizer, a dessert, an entre', thanking someone for something, complimenting someone, helping someone with something, help the host, greeting a newcomer, asking someone's name, introducing yourself, straightening up something (casually- in order to feel confident by feeling like you have a purpose).

Also, force yourself to say even 2 words in front of a group of people (when a group situation warrants it) & gradually increase that until you feel entirely comfortable to this exposure to your fear. Start with little baby steps with a few of these suggestions & add on as you begin to grow in your comfort of just being yourself in public.

You might be the one to say a quick prayer eventually or make a small announcement or maybe sing a song or make a small speech (eventually) or thank everyone, etc. etc.

Concentrate on being kind to the other guy. Another good idea is to put another newcomer at ease. Helping those people will take your eyes off of yourself & make you comfortable & at the same time help the next guy too. Maybe another shy person.

Comment on the weather or some person's jewelry piece, smile, or clothing. Smile a lot even if you're scared & show warmness so that others will feel comfortable enough to approach you.

It helps a lot to be groomed in social situations & look your best so you won't feel quite so self-conscious & have more confidence, not having to worry about that. Work at it little by little like you would a goal that you would set for yourself. This is a goal that you have for yourself, isn't it? God bless!

Answer 3

You have to, HAVE TO, not care about what anyone else thinks plus the attitude if you're not me you're an idiot helps. But are you confusing shyness with wariness? Trust your instinct, seriously do. Do not double guess yourself, there might be a good reason for your shyness. i.e. are you to shy about getting naked at the public library? Good thing then, you'll get arrested, unless you're a really hot chick and all the patrons are dirty old men, then you'd still want to be shy.

Answer 4

My 21 year old son has this problem. The advice he was given is the same I am giving you. Find a College or university near you that give free or nearly free public speaking classes. My son was told that part of being shy is low self esteem. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself that you are a good person, and you can do anything you put your mind to. AND BELIEVE IT!!!!

Answer 5

Realize everyone is shy and only the really obnoxious get remembered(for their arrogance and that is the way they compensate their insecurity) To overcome it, remember to not think that others are perfect or strangers will care for more then the time you think it is happening

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Beer!