Is it right for me to expect her too pay. Alot of women expect the guy to pay when he asks her out and some of them feel slighted if he doesn't. Do agree that it is perfectly fine for me to feel that way? OR should the guy pay regardless of who asks for the first date? Why?
*Of course I have my own position but I want to know what you think before the date actually comes around.
2007-03-23 02:31:51 · 28 answers · asked by Vince R 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MonaLisa79 claims that since I accepted the invitation I should pay. So if I had beat her to the punch and asked her out would the same apply to her? I bet the answer would be no. That's the type of bullshit that keeps men and women in the position that we are in now. How can anybody respect the opposite sex as their equals when they support such gender roles?
2007-03-23 04:50:25 · update #1
MonaLisa79 claims that since I accepted the invitation I should pay. So if I had beat her to the punch and asked her out would the same apply to her? I bet the answer would be no. That's the type of bullshit that keeps men and women in the position that we are in now. How can anybody respect the opposite sex as their equals when they support such gender roles?
2007-03-23 04:50:27 · update #2
I believe the check should be split at all times, end of story. I would never pay for something I didn't eat, and I would never let a guy do the same.
2007-03-23 07:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well how much do you like her? What outcome do you want? Meaning do you want to date her down the road or eventually be her boyfriend? I then would definitely pay the bill then. Unless your broke and cannot afford too, then just tell her, you know I'd really like to go out with you, but I rather pay, but right now I am low on funds, she might say oh that's okay I'll pay, or you could invite her to do something like go to the park or over to one of your friends house or your house just to hang out, I don't know what age you are or her, so that makes the equation harder to demonstrate. If you have your own place invite her over for a movie and cook her dinner. But if it's just you not wanting to pay, then I guess your not to interested in the girl, or it will show that your not interested in her as far as a girlfriend goes, more as a friend.
2007-03-23 02:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think that who ever does the asking should be prepared to pay for the night out - and this is also based on what kind of date it is. The "You wanna meet me at Starbucks for coffee before work/class etc?" would indicate to me a dutch deal. But if it's a real asking out "Would you like to go out with me to a movie Friday?" then the asker should pay. IF however, you feel like being chivalrous, or whatever, you can offer to take the tab.
1. It's wrong for a female to expect to have her evening comp'd if she's the one who asked. If this is her expectation, then you know where you want this relationship to go....nowhere.
2. Once you see that she is prepared to accept the responsibility, you offer and she (reluctantly?) allows you to, you may see that this is someone who is confident in herself and independent, and might be worth finding out a little more about.
2007-03-23 02:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Denise D 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If a girl asks you out - She is likely willing to pay, but you still have to reach for your wallet as if your expecting to pay.
Make an honest effort to attempt to split the cost of the date.
Example - if she insists on paying for dinner let her and say "ok but I'm buying the next time we go out"
This will respect her
Allow you to be a gentleman
Posibly lock a second date if you so wish
And get you out of paying.
But you'll have follow thru next time.
2007-03-23 02:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Don T 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If the girl asks you out, it is up to her to pay. According to proper dating etiquette, whoever asks for the date is expected to foot the bill. If you aren't comfortable with that you can offer to pay or split the bill.
2007-03-23 03:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kavasa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should offer to pay. It is what a real gentleman does. How ever don't be surprised if she pays for it. Take it as it comes! In to days world it appears the rules are so different than in my day. By the way. I really do not call men. I don't ask them out. I invite them though. That in its self was a big step for me. LOL
2007-03-23 02:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Personally, I believe the guy should pay for the first date.
I tend to carry on getting the bill, even after that. But I don't see any problem with going dutch from the second date onwards.
Show the lady that you're a gentleman.
2007-03-23 02:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony Stark 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't expect a guy to pay for me. I know he might offer, but regardless, I refuse until we're close. And then as I do with all my friends, I sometimes pick up the tab and sometimes vice versa.
2007-03-23 04:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe in this day and age it is perfectly acceptable to split the bill. Especially on the first date. That way it's completely neutral and no one has to feel slighted.
2007-03-23 02:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by nic h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why did you not ask this girl out first yourself? Since you accepted her invitation, you pay.
whoever said men and women are equal meaning exactly the same? they are not. they are equal but also very different. there is no bs in that....paying for a woman's dinner is like saying I appreciate your company and I am thankful to be with you in the same room. and if you don't like her, then don't take her out. and if you don't like her afterwards, then don't call her again. But YOU have to pay for dinner. end of story.:-)
2007-03-23 04:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by monalisa79 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋