I love him dearly and always want whats best to make him happy. Why do I always feel like theres got to be more in our relationship? Can't I be content with what we have? I always want more. ( In everything) I'm 52 and he's 58.
2007-03-23 02:27:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we all long for happiness and contentment but we can't always find it in other people. we have to find it within ourselves. he can't make you happy if you are not happy with yourself. look deep inside for the real reason for your unhappiness. then sit down with him and talk. ask him if there is anything he has seen in you that you may not be aware of (your hidden self) He may have a different outlook on this issue. Take a vacation by yourself and reflect on your life. Take a class get involve in some meaningful activity. Don't center your life entirely on your boyfriend this may make a big difference in how you and feeling about him and yourself.
2007-03-23 02:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by MARGARET O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to be happy with what you have. In fact if you aren't going to learn that lesson you probably never will. I suspect that you have pushed guys away this way before and you will do it again if you don't cut out this self destructive habit and just start looking at what is right with your relationship instead of what is missing. People that insist on looking for flaws always find it the finest gems have them but in most things it's these minor flaws that give them character and value. Begin now looking at what works in your relationship. I guarantee when he is ten miles down the road after you drive him away you will be able to think of multiple things you will miss about him and your relationship.
2007-03-23 09:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you want what's best to make him happy. If you are unhappy in a relationship, how can you make you partner happy. For me, you both need to be happy and content with what you have for it to work. It's a two way street. You have to think and think alone to see why you are unhappy. If you know in your heart that you may want more or something better, you need to let go. You might end up hurting him.
2007-03-23 09:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by cric k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need time apart. You said you want to make him happy the question is are you happy? The only way to no your true feelings for him is to be without him for a while. It seems as though you feel like you're settling and who no's you might be. The only way to no is to go and see what else is out there and soon enough you'll find out what it is that you want. It might be him or it might not be, but either way concentrate on making yourself happy not someone else.
2007-03-23 09:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that YOU always want what makes HIM happy..is that reciprocated ? Is this a one way street? A relationship has to be give and take..50/50...You said you always want more..more of what? material things? if that is the case, then there may be something immaterial missing from your life, and material things will not fill that void until you figure out what you a re missing..if you want more emotional things from the relationship, you have to speak up...If he is unable to give more emotionally than you are getting from him, then maybe you need to move on with your life...good luck
2007-03-23 09:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont feel content probably because you have something in ur mind which u want from him or something he has in mind which he wants from you....you should share everything with eachother and the love will keep u binded if its truly there!
2007-03-23 09:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgurl_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's been something left unfulfilled in your own life; that's why you can't relax and enjoy what you have.
Sit down and give serious thought to this; what is it you never got to complete in your life?
Until you can answer and remedy this, you'll always want more.
2007-03-23 09:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What more do you want that he is not providing? You should talk to him about this. It is hard to answer when you are not specific about what "more" you want.
You should work together constantly to make it better.
You should also evaluate your own feelings and ask yourself if you are expecting too much from him. Maybe you need to make some changes yourself.
be cool...
2007-03-23 09:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are feeling very insecure about your relationship. Talk to you boyfriend about those feelings that you have, cause he might not know how you are feeling and maybe you can work something out with him.
2007-03-23 09:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a therapist. You probably have some issues of your own that are causing this wanderlust.
2007-03-23 09:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋