ok, last nite, one of my best guy friends was giving me a ride home from practice. he was joking (i thought) saying that i had to 'give him a little somethin' on the way home. then he forced me to give him oral. i know i could have bit him, but he was dricing and i didn't want him to go off the road. he's 18 and i'm 16, so it's legal. but i don't know if i should tell someone that matters. this isn't the first time it has happened to me, i can deal with the pain, but i think i need to say something. what should i do?
2007-03-23 02:01:52 · 12 answers · asked by J.Funk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh sweetie. Tell the authorities right away. Have an adult you trust go with you. ANY sexual activity that is unwanted EVEN ORAL is RAPE.
You don't know what he'll do next time. Please tell someone. I've been through something similar, and I don't wanna scare you, but this guy can be dangerous to you and other girls. If he doesn't hurt you again he could hurt another girl and it could be worse.
If you need to talk to someone please e-mail me - chicamw@hotmail.com
2007-03-23 03:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blow the whistle loud and clear or it will happen again and next time it could be even worse. You're not suppose to be forced to do anything you don't want to do willingly. Listen, even if you don't have any witnesses do you want him to do the same thing to someone else? This is called forced oral copulation and it's just like rape. This could have a detrimental affect on the rest of your life.
2007-03-23 02:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened to you is called "date rape". i know. i was date raped in college.
call the rape crisis center phone number listed in the front of your phone book. you could talk to someone anonymously there ... without even giving your name. they can help you understand what has happened to you and how to handle your feelings. reporting it to the police is not mandatory. it does help them keep statistics. but you must decide for yourself what is best for you.
also, are you able to talk to your parents or a school counselor, as well as the crisis center?
i got counseling over the phone, just as i suggested to you, then later i went to a support group. in that group there were girls that also had this happen to them more than once. you are not alone.
make that call. get help in taking care of you. a rape crisis counselor could assist you if you decided to make a police report.
my prayers are with you.
2007-03-23 03:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by fiver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TELL SOMEONE..because you'll miss the chance because i did, things like that happend to me on and off for about 2 years, and its the worst feeling in the world to be to scared to tell someone, but you have to do it or he'll do it to other girls. Don't ever let a guy take advantage of you.
2007-03-23 02:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can report it and have him brought up on charges. Just because it's legal if both parties consent, it is illegal if one of the parties involved didn't do it willfully. Press charges against him before he really hurts somene or worse.Besdes, you don't deserve to be treated that way.
2007-03-23 04:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to tell someone right away so that he doesn't do this to someone else and you don't let yourself be the helpless victim. Call the police and make a report.
2007-03-23 02:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by jonmm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops right now. Tell them your story.
2007-03-23 02:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely tell someone, preferably a trusted adult they will handle it. If you don't do something about this then he will just do it again to some innocent person. Please TELL SOMEBODY.
2007-03-23 02:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Oaks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to report this, DON"T BE SCARED . He will only do this someone else.(sorry to hear that)
2007-03-23 02:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell someone, you should not have to ever do anything sexual that you do not want to do
2007-03-23 02:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by Krista H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋