I am having issues. My mom kind of freaked out on me because i am going to a new councelor and she is canceling all of my appointments. i really need counceling because i overdosed and i used to cut. i am getting over my dads suicide and i need help with it. She started sweraing and breaking bowls because i asked about going to counceling the following week... Any advice??
2007-03-23 01:44:25 · 12 answers · asked by becki t 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Not to place blame, but could your mom be a small part of the problems in your life? You have been through a lot and she needs to be part of the solution, not the problem. I don't know your history, but is there anyway you could sit down and talk rationally? Let her know how you feel. Could you ask her to go with you? Right now you don't need added stress. Sometimes us moms get a little selfish and only see our pain and no one else's. But her behavior is definitely not appropriate (I was going to say "Normal" but I guess you already know that). Call back and get those appointments back!!
2007-03-23 01:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by blonde4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are aware that you have a problem and that you are willing to solve it. About your mom...have you tried reasoning with her? Maybe she is experiencing the same thing you are only she is not wanting to admit that. Maybe she is financially worried. Listen, you have to talk to her, but be nice, no screaming, no yelling and if she starts something, just say: "listen mom, I need to solve this whether you like it or not. If you have problems yourself, I am here for you, but I will not let you talk to me like that." And if she doesn't stop (which she probably won't), just walk away. Leave the place, go out for a walk. If you can't afford therapy yourself and you are not in school where they have free counseling, then find a support group in your area. I'm sure a church has one (doesn't matter whether you are religious or not, you just need someone to talk to) or something. So, basically your mom will have nothing to do with your therapy and she can't boss you around. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Mom needs the counselling!! Is there anyone else in your family that can talk to your Mom for you about it. if you need counselling it's important that you go and as a mother myself, your Mom should understand that and support you in it. If she gets to a point where she is really interfering I just wouldn't tell her. Tell her you are doing something else, going to a friends going to the mall etc and just go by yourself or with a friend (depending on how old you are)
2007-03-23 11:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by emmalouisedowns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your mom is having problems with dealing with the death too, i have some of the same problems with my mother, i am also a mother and mothers do not want to believe that their kids are sick or need help, she may be feeling helpless or left out because you are talking with a stranger about your problems, try to talk to her and if that doesn't work explain to her that you need the help that he counseling is giving you and that you are not turning your back on her, just be patient with your mom, i know it is very hard but she is your mom, good luck and i hope that you feel better soon, depression and mental illness can be a private hell!
2007-03-23 08:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Krystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom wont let you get help then wow. She may be having problems of her own so just try to get her invloved in it, so that you can build a relationship with eachother. Loosing someone is a sad thing and i know you need all the comfort you can get so try to make your mom understand that!
2007-03-23 08:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by Aleksandra L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you for going to someone you feel comfortable with! thats you right! didnt like the last one? what ever.your mom should be happy that you are making an effort to heal yourself, with whomever you feel comfortable with. she needs counceling i think as well. tell your counselor about her. Im really sorry for your loss,, make a call to your counselor, ask for help. with this situation. w/ your mom. hang in there ,and be careful w the stuff your using.. that just makes it harder to deal with reality.
2007-03-23 08:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by 692nite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, she wont let you get help??? i say contact the person your sopposed to be going to for councling and tell them what your problem is and that you really need to go and that your mom can't cancle it. they will say ok and you just go. sont they take walkins though. well anyway. you can always go without your mom knowing if you have a way to go. i mean no offence or anything but it sounds like your having some troubles in life and you really need this councling.
2007-03-23 08:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by jenfers10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! maybe after she calms down the two of you can make plans for family counseling. Sounds like things are getting to her too. good luck.
ps I respect you for wanting to make things better! I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-23 08:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well .. .you need councelling if that is the way you are feeling.... ddddddddodoooonnnnnnttt do itt thats my only advice !
2007-03-23 08:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by alainamorgan@hotmail.com m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring your mom along with you for counselling.
2007-03-23 08:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋