You know it just hurts so bad when they don't know what they want and you are trying to get over them. You don't speak to them for 3 weeks you end up speaking and just feel like crap as you think why did I go back?? Do you from past experiences think its better to CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH AN EX?
2007-03-23 01:43:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cut off all contact, don't answer his calls, don't see him, and dont e-mail or text him. Work on yourself and getting better. Make new friends so you have something to do. Then once your better you can start working on a relationship with someone else. Dont give them another chance, there is a reason it didn't work out the first time.
2007-03-26 23:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is best, especially if you had really strong feelings for that person. It's hard enough getting over someone, and talking to them makes it harder. It IS possible to be friends with an ex, but in some cases it just isn't worth the pain you feel. If talking to this person makes you feel that bad after weeks, then I'd cut off all contact.
2007-03-23 08:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup cut all contact.. its either that or shoot em (read any news paper on any given day.. you'll find at least one such story).. I suggest you pick the former... an X is an X right? There is no point in keeping contact with an X.. thats just stupid.. particularly in the first few years.. sheesh If ya wann be friends 3 years down the road.. OK... I still think its silly though.. fine.. but not in the inital break up phase.. unless yer a maschochist maybe... But do as you will.. none of my concern...
2007-03-23 09:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experience it was the best thing to do. I dated a girl after knowing her for 6 months in college. We dated for 3 months and it was the best summer I ever had but she said she wanted to hold off and just be friends because both of us seemed like our lives were going in opposite directions. I said fine. We tried to hang out repeatedly and she constantly stood me up after that and came up with some piss poor excuse why she didn't show. I was still attracted to her so like an idiot I gave in everytime for 14 months. After that I told her hey give me some time to get over you before we see eachother again. (story's almost done). She said ok, but after only a few weeks she begged to have some contact even after not showing all those other times. We did this back and forth. One day I'd get fed up and say go away, then she'd beg me to be friends again.I finally said I would never talk to her again if she asked to reconnect before I was ready.
So immediately after a breakup, my advice would be to cut things off (on good terms if you can) and wait until you bump into him/her down the line before you reconnect. Don't give in if they are insistent on seeing you right off the bat. It'll cause you to hurt more if you aren't truly ready.
2007-03-25 13:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by i_amme_ur_not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because it's just more pain to let them come in and out of your life not knowing what they want and while their doing what they want to do you end up waiting thinking that things will change and the only thing that usually changes is you hanging on to something that will never probably be and them moving on to someone else while they've given you mixed signals like things could work out. And that is a lot of pain and more hurt feelings to think that it all might be again then in comes someone else it's just not worth it. The Best Of Luck To You!
2007-03-23 08:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if there's no way things will ever work between you two then yes, definitely.
Give it some time, it is possible to be friends with your ex. It just sometimes takes a long time for bad feelings or the comfortable connection to die down a bit.
For now: be strong and focus on other interests.
Good luck, it will be okay!
2007-03-23 08:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by sexybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something I have experience with, cut it off. If the relationship did not work then it will not work. Get over the person and move on.
2007-03-23 08:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by burn409 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is better to cut off all contact, that is if the relationship ended in a bad way. been there, done that. and now, after a month, he is talking to my friends, asking for my schedule at work so that he can come talk to me. SO ANNOYING!
but, of course, there's the possibility that you and your partner brake up and remain friends, in which case, there's no reason you cut off all contact.
2007-03-23 08:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by sea_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what ur talking about. going through the same thing here. u try ur best not to think about her, but then u just miss her so much and u call her. u talk a bit, it might go well or not. and when u hang up, u think why did i do that?
its best to try and cut them off altogether but its really hard especially when u really miss them.
u just have to go on i guess.
anyway, whatever u do, gudluck.
2007-03-23 08:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the best way. Delete him from everything you have, cell phone, email, myspace, facebook, everything and anything, that way you are not tempted in the least bit to call him. If he calls you, ingore him. It may sound harsh, but it will only help you in the long run.
2007-03-23 09:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋