What should I do?

Question

This question is not as long as it seems, I just really need advice. It will seem long because there is a letter on the end, which will be explained, and an optional section of what happened between me and her. I'm trying to make sure everyone knows they can make this short.

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say this message that's below to her, but I couldn't remember. All my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said ok, I get the point, you don't

have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around. Then I left. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. Now for what happened:

She told me she was falling in love with someone else (she still talks to him but she's never seriously dated him and she's single) assuming I wouldn't say anything and I told a friend assuming he wouldn't say anything because I needed to talk to someone because I fell in love with her. I didn't know not to say anything or I wouldn't have. He said something about it around her and she got mad at me. She ignored me for a week, then when I went to her she talked to me as if uninterested in what I had to say. I gave her a month and a half space. When I talked to her, it was normal until I asked if she was still mad at me, then she said no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. It's been 8 months since then, and collectively about 11 months (which number counts?) I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back. This is what I was going to say to her, but now I'll just write it to her (if I even do that) and try to forget her.

From the moment we stopped talking, I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've worked on those things to improve myself. A special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. I miss when we used to talk and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I really care about you and like I said, you're special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END) Her 17th b-day is in one week. I'm 17 as well.

I don't see how she can treat me this way and it's been so long since all that bs happened

Answer 1

lsn man...it's really sad when a guy loves a girl and she never loves him back, but it's even sadder to keep trying things that won't work...
if u still love her then u can't just be 'friends' u'll think it's ok in the beginning but it's really not, and she knows it...
and if u don't love her anymore, i say stay away from her, because if u stay close u might just fall for her again, and repeat this whole cycle all over again...
the reason y she ignored u maybe because she's doesn't wanna give u any fake hope that u 2 might be together...
best thing is to get her out of ur mind, don't think about her, and when u do try to occupy urself with sth else, u just gotta move on...
sorry man, but better take action now than later

Answer 2

listen...due..seriously now...get it out of ur sistem...if she doesnt wanna be with u than get another girl. And please dont say i love u...or think about it only when u see a girl that u like. 11 months....damn!!! long time...get another girl...this is how u do it...stop saying that u love her:), act casual and start interesting converstations with lots of humour if u wanna talk abot serious stuff with a girl she will see u as a wuss...and frankly 80% of men are...no jokes. Don't fantasise about her, get some friends that know girls all too well...and don't ever buy girls gift till u have them in ur arms...i mean seriously...buy girts=wuss material=>she will think that ur just like the rest and ignore u...if u fight about something..and ur not a couple...find somenone else!!!!! wake up...and good luck