My girlfriend and I were in love with each other. We broke up, but we are trying to make it work again. However, she changed her personality. She is not the same person I fell in love with. She seems distant, but she is the one that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...so its hard to deal with.
I have a friend who has always been there for me. She has always had feelings for me, but we never acted on it and I told her there is no way we can be together. However, she still stuck by me and she was always a very good friend. Its hard to see her as more than a friend, but I know she would treat me better than the one that I'm with. The one that Im with is very cold these days and she wont talk to me. She doesnt seem to love me anymore, but Im still crazy about her. My friend ALWAYS wants to talk to me and she understands me completely. I know in time I COULD have feelings for her, but I dont know what I should do.
What would you do?
2007-03-23 01:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by Sean I.T ? 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont want to lose my girlfriend cuz I know shes the one I want to be with, but I feel like I should move on if she doesnt respond to me. She is SO different, that I feel as if she is with someone else mentally or lost feelings for me. If you have words of wisdom, help me out!
2007-03-23 01:29:23 · update #1
Maybe the one you are with suspects that you are dreaming about someone else.
2007-03-23 01:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by jtaylor1993 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sometimes, relationships cool and change over time. the image that we think we want suddenly is different and the actions of the person we are devoted to are altered to the point that it is just not the same.
it sounds as if your former girlfriend may have gotten back with you to give you the time to let go while she looks for another situation for herself.
while life does change, it can be a more rewarding change if we are willing to stretch a bit beyond what we think we need and try something new.
if you have a friend who is always there for you and for whom you have some feelings and they are reciprocated, there is no reason to not act upon it.
you are not married and it sounds like what was once a good thing has gone south, so try something new with this other girl.
like the line in the song says: "are you gonna stay with the one who loves you or are you going back to the one you love"
sometimes it is better to have someone truly be your friend and let love happen...
2007-03-23 08:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by stonechic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend is a completely different person than the one you fell in love with then you are holding on to a dream. We dont love ppl for their looks, we love them for who they are and she is not that person anymore, so I have to ask you....do you really still love her or do you love her for her you know she can be? If the second one is true then you need to break it off because the chance of her changing to appease you are minute, and if she does it will only be a matter of time before she reverts back to this person you don't love. I say you should move on and maybe try to spark things up with you friend, BUT you need to be very careful if you do cuz you could potential ruin the friendship if things don't pan out with the two of you.
2007-03-23 08:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-girlfriend has nothing to do in your life anymore. If you don't have any feelings for your friend then just tell her that you really adore her AS A FRIEND. and that you have some issues now and she should move on but when the time is right you'll make the move.
2007-03-23 08:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the girlfriend for a start, she obviously isn't as interested in you as you are in her. Keep your friend as a friend because there is no point in putting you and her through a relationship for it not to work out. Try finding another girl in general or here is a wacky idea, stay single for a while and enjoy the dating scene again.
2007-03-23 08:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question......you know your girlfiend isn't for you and your FRIEND is....if someone doesn't talk she isn't interested in you...she is just with you cause she was at one time...she will meet someone who she wants to talk to and drop you like a hot pototo.trust me...and what is wrong with having a friendship first? NOTHING that will make a relationship last....and you said you could have feelings for her so?????///.what are you doing? Tell the girlfriend good bye and date this friend and see what happens take it SLOW..slow slow...rebounds do NOT work either!
2007-03-23 08:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the girlfriend
Try dating your friend. You see, a long term relationship can start with a friendship. You could end up Friends for LIFE, so wouldn't that be a good thing?
2007-03-23 14:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that's a hard one....
prob "keep" the one who BROKE UP WITH YOU!!!...her personality changed...not the same person...doesn't want you, doesn't need you, doesn't seem to love you, is hard to deal with.....BWAHHH hawwww... waaaaaa..Boo hoo hooo (read many tears here and lots and lots of crying....) you big WUSSY boy!
Man up...and maybe read the 2nd paragraph you wrote again and again and again till you kinda "get it"
2007-03-23 08:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend does not love you anymore, you can always depend on the other girl's love, so go for it!!! She seems nice!
2007-03-23 08:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a 3-some
2007-03-23 08:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One in hand one in bush, whoever acts different just give her a push...
2007-03-23 08:37:55 · answer #11 · answered by Lucky Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋