i hate my father because from 16-18 he was my lover..i am 20 now and i wish he was dead, why do i feel like this? i cant stand talkin to him and being with him but on the other hand i wanna be around him all the time. I make death threats to him and im never home cuz he is always sleep or at work..please i have tried to kill myslef soooo many times to just get rid of all this pain but god wont let me leave....how can i love him again and have a normal realtionship with my dad? im afraid i might kill him or me...
2007-03-23 01:25:00 · 12 answers · asked by * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. You suck at life AND you suck at death. There's no hope for you, sorry.
2007-03-23 01:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Edub 4 · 2⤊ 8⤋
I am so sorry that your father chose to molest you. First know that you are not alone and not to blame. You did nothing wrong not even wanting your daddy to love you is wrong,it's natural for a child to want a parent to love them. I am a survivor I can identify with how you are feeling right now.
I do recommend calling the police as I would fear for the safety of other children. What you need to do is to find out if there is a Women's Center in you community if there is they can help you find the help you need. They will not judge you, and most importantly you will be believed. Incest is a secret that a victim must carry tell your secret and start on your way to survivor. learning to survive is a long painful journey but it is definitely worth taking. You have already survived the worst your father molesting you, I know the strength it takes to get through that. Please see that you are a strong, courageous woman. Deserving to be free of the guilt , blame,shame and self hatred that you must feel
2007-03-23 02:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by aanaconda062000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being honest here I am so sorry for your pain. My father abused me sexually and I finally decided to disown him for good. I was released and felt 100% times better when I did. Unless he admits his crime against you his child, if he doesnt feel horrible guilt and want to get counselling, I doubt if you have anything to work with. Obviously there was sexual abuse before this, you dont all of a sudden decide to sleep with your own father. This is a terrible abuse problem. You have to seek help as well. and maybe truly the only way is let him go out of your life. That will help the anger and guilt to which like i said there is more then what you are telling. This has to happen previously then when you were 16. You need peace.
2007-03-23 01:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into counseling and stay there! It may be a good time to not have contact with him at all and if you feel it would do any good -- press criminal charges on him.
He isn't a father because he took advantage of that father-daughter love and made it into something criminal. When he crossed the line he stole your childhood and the ability to have high self-esteem and healthy relationships with other people.
Taking your life won't end the pain honey. Know that you are not alone, seek counseling, get in a support group, and refuse to be a victim for the rest of your life. It won't be easy but know educated yourself on the signs of men who abuse so that you will be better adapt to changing courses if you should ever get involved with another man who may hurt you.
2007-03-23 01:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I feel guilty for giving my opinion in this because I'm not trined to deal with this kind of thing.First of all- believe it or not YOU WERE STILL A CHILD! IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
Apparently (I'm assuming) you do not have children.
A mommy and daddy's job is to protect,teach,love their children..not harm them,hurt them, and destroy them. You need to go to the police NOW! You also need to get help- suicide AND victims. It doesn't matter if you responded ... you couldn't legally sign an order form because you were to young to be responsible to make a decision! Your dad had no right to ever do this to you! Please seek help in the right locations. I'm sure you are stronger than this...a life is not to be taken lightly and it's possible that you feel this because your dad took away something from you. You need to heal you..don't wait. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope that at 20 yrs. of age you would have enough sense to get the hell out of there and do what a grown-up would do!
By the way..where's mom?
2007-03-23 02:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was once very clingy till a few months earlier than her third birthday. Before then she could no longer depart my aspect if there have been men and women she was once no longer absolutely used to within the room. Now she is virtually four and she or he is clingy handiest on infrequent situations. I didn't do something to make her much less clingy - there was once little I would do - she simply grew out of it. My husband is really tough along with her at the same time gambling however my daughter enjoys that. He performs plenty along with her and laughs along with her and continually tells her how so much he loves her. Being tough is not always dangerous, but when he is imply to her then it is no surprise she cries with him!
2016-09-05 12:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by piekarski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure if you are genuine or not but here goes incase you are:
1. You were not his lover, you were abused by the one man a girl is supposed to be able to trust and rely on.
2. If he did this to you, you do not need to love him, hating him is fine and is natural.
3. Go to an adult or friend who you trust completely and tell them what has gone on and then go to the police and report the sick f***er.
4. Get help, you need counselling.
2007-03-23 01:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your telling the truth there is laws against this and i'm sure you know that
any one that would make something up like this or lie about someone doing this type of thing is just sick
there is to many children that this happen to maybe he needs to spend some jail time and you need counseling
i'm sure the guys in there would treat him real nice
2007-03-23 01:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by country-girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read your other questions. I'm do not believe this is a real question. However, if it is here is what I have to say on the matter.
Get your butt to therapy NOW! Work on yourself first, get healthy, and then worry about your relationship with your father.
2007-03-23 01:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go to your councelotr at school or the POLICE..infact go to the police..he had no right to touch you ever.......you are normal any child would want his or her parent to love them even if the parent is a sick jerk....don't try to get his love...love yourself more and call the police ..you'll be ok..I promise....I bet he drinks or has a drug problem..or BOTH...thoes people you can't help or have in your life if you want a good happy life! Good luck!
2007-03-23 01:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quickly get into counseling.
2007-03-23 01:31:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋