ok my girlfriend nikki has lost her 4 best friends they comitted suicide and now she blames herself for it and she hates herself and she hurts herself everynight by taking freezing cold water and ice and filling the bathtub up with it then since she was on the swim team she can hold her breath for a long time she's basically numbing her body and trying to cut off her breathing and i dont want her to do that and it's killing me inside that she continues to do this plz i need help on what i should do????Fast
2007-03-23 01:17:36 · 20 answers · asked by ford_girl<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs professional help - fast. She's trying to numb her feelings by numbing her body and that is very destructive. She needs help dealing with her emotions, and she needs to come to terms with her friends' deaths. Most importantly, she needs to learn that the deaths were not her fault.
As hard as it is, and even though she will probably be angry with you, you need to tell her parents (or a teacher or other trusted adult) what's going on. Tell them everything - don't hold anything back. She really needs help quickly - she obviously can't deal with her pain on her own (and there is NO shame in that). Be a good friend and make sure she gets help.
2007-03-23 01:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this situation is obviously very hard to deal with, take your girlfriend to see someone that will help her. A person like this will help her to deal with the fact her friends have died and the pain will soon start to get easier. This is all ic an really suggest but you also need to be there for her every step of the way
2007-03-23 01:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling,Seriously will need it becasue haveing freindSSS commit suicide is going to be a real big event to her life,huge impact.Whether or not there are any serious phychological effects on her,she needs some professional advice,something she really can lsten to and wont go wrong.
hurting herself is a bad syntom,she most probably wont be wanting to approach a counsellor or anybody so i guess u have to seek help for her or doing someting like seeking a knowledgeable senior.
Go find her n try to be around her for as much as u can.If something happens to her,u're gonna regret it,so go protect her.
2007-03-23 01:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will hate you at first but she needs some psychiatric help and fast. She blames herself for her friends and if you let it the number four is going to become 5 ( herself) She doesn't feel like she is worth living when she feels like she did this herself. She will not like you at first but when she comes out of this depression she will thank you alot. She needs help and right now it looks like your her only choice. Get her help and it will be ok. It is going to take alot on your part but if you truly love her then stick with her.
2007-03-23 01:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that its not her fault that they commited suicide. That they had their own personal problems, which they themselves couldn't take care of and instead, took the foolish way out of it. She has got to move on and forget about the past, even if she continues to torture herself, she won't be able to bring them back. Bring her out more often and create more happy memories for you two, it'll take her mind off such things temporarily.
2007-03-23 01:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok just checking here
1. your 15
2. you say your a lesbian
3. nikki has another gf
4. you r wit her 3 weeks
5. you love her already
6. you want to marry her
ahem....wow!! what a life..
if ur tellin d truth then common sense should have told u to tell her parents a teacher or someone
2007-03-23 01:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents, they can get her the help she needs by putting her in a hospital with 24 hour attention.
2007-03-23 01:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her understand, what she's doing upsets you. Rest is upto you, your ship is sinking so will you come online and post a question here, go ahead n do what you think is right...
2007-03-23 01:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help. Get her to a doctor. let her see that there are things out there at are good enough to live for, for example, your relationship.
2007-03-23 01:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her parents. She's obviously traumatized. She probably needs therapy of some type.
2007-03-23 01:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋