2007-03-23 00:48:20 · 5 answers · asked by poopski 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom and i had a really bad relationship when I was younger, but Ive noticed that the older I get the more she becomes my best friend...im just glad that "annoying mom" phase is over!
2007-03-23 01:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dior Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I have a really bad relationship, and I can tell you why from my point of view. My mother has no idea why. She grew up in a family in which there were no boys and no father, so she places a high value on boys - therefore my brothers were valued more than I was. When she sold her house, she divided the money between my brothers because "you've got a husband to look after you", even though we live in a council house.
She is also very controlling - I could tell you horror story after horror story - everything was an issue. If I said "Doesn't the sea look blue today" it would be "It's not blue, it's green!" (true.)
My mother has never understood why I resent her so - she thinks I am a whinger. She told me once that she suffered from PMT, which meant that every month she made my life hell. I first tried to commit suicide when I was 11. My brothers look at me in disbelief - they never experienced her bitterness or anger.
But I've come to realise that it is all so ingrained in my mother, that she can't see my point of view - it just doesn't exist. She's blocked out the things she did, thinks she was a lovely mother. And if I remind her of some of the things she did, she tells me I'm throwing things in her face.
A few months ago I phoned her and she was crying. I asked her why and she told me it was because her "boys" never had bicycles. I told her she was wrong, that it was me who never had a bicycle. She wanted to know if I was sure and when I reminded her of the years when they got their bicycles, she was reassured. It only struck me when I put the phone down that she never shed tears for me. It didn't cross her mind.
My mother says: What can I do? I'm an old woman now?
And it is true. There is nothing she could do. But I feel deep resentment and I'd like my childhood back. I'd like to be kissed and cuddled and treated like the only daughter I was. Not just a drudge or told "why should you have it? I never did?"
I'd forgive her tomorrow if she acknowledged it.
2007-03-23 08:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My relationship with my 26 year old daughter is testy sometimes, but it's getting better as she's maturing.
2007-03-23 12:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by hardlyworkinwoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well..iv been there but now we share a great bond. Although ... it stil gets hampered on/off.
its again the great expectations which may ruin any relationship.
2007-03-23 08:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by barley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moms annoy their daughters..
thats just the way it goes
2007-03-23 07:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋