i have a very loving wife but i have a very big ding-a-ling, i thought that she would get used to it by now but it still hurts her and there's nothing i can do, when i got with her i knew she had had a chilld so i thought she would be ok with it but turns out she had a seserian we havn't had full sex for nearly 4months now can any one help?
2007-03-23 00:39:29 · 31 answers · asked by doggy dog 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dream on.
2007-03-23 00:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You know I'm more inclined to believe you than others.
Me & my boyfriend have the same problem with him being *ahem very well endowed.
We just have to stick with positions that don't shorten the vagina otherwise it gets very uncomfortable.
Some people would say let her go on top so she can control the depth etc but I found this to be one of the more painful so I guess it's different from person to person.
Make sure she's turned on before you attempt sex because it'll be even more uncomfortable if she's not.
You'll have to be patient, if she feels rushed she'll get tense which will make the situation worse.
Failing this maybe you should both start thinking about other forms of sex like oral maybe?
Whatever you do it should be fun and shouldn't stress you out so stop fretting about it.
Hope this helps
2007-03-23 01:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read that as 'I have a very loving wife but she's a bit ding-a ling. I thought she'd get used to it by now'.
Why don't you consider surgery. Big ding-a-lings are not a good thing. Other men seem to think they're important but believe me, most women I know (including me) just don't want to know. Normal sized ones are much more useful.
2007-03-23 00:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to work hard to make sure she's really turned-on, and use lots of lubrication. Even though she had a c-section, women's bodies are capable of stretching enough to give birth. I'm sure your "ding-a-ling" is not bigger than a baby's head, so she should be able to accommodate you if things are done right and she has enough lubrication. Start out the evening by making dinner, spoil her and take away her stresses and make sure she's relaxed. Then give her lots of fore-play before you try sex. Good Luck.
2007-03-23 00:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well most women will no that the vagina is very elastic and if we are about to push a baby out then were sure to be able to have other things go out as well. she just needs to relax a bit more. give her a nice massage to relieve tension and start with some foreplay and then move on to some kissing or oral then onces shes wet enough try going in but if its still sore then use flavoured lub. hope this helps
2007-03-23 00:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
use some lubricants and also make her relax and forget about the size and it should slip in easily. Take your time and make her feel comfortable talk to her whilst your doing it and ask if she is ok or should u try a different position, be quite attentive to her needs she would apprectiate that.
2007-03-23 00:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by char 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make her feel pressured. c-sections can be a traumatic experience.
When she hints she is ready.
Run her a bath and pour her a glass of wine. maybe put some relaxing music on for her.
This will help her not feel so tence.
Invest in some lubrication. Try giving her a massage or even oral first.
2007-03-23 02:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to use plenty of lubrication and just don't get over excited and hit the gas just pump your breaks a little more. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 00:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know it always makes me laugh when men ( some men) boast about a big ding-a-ling as you call it.
Being big is a problem and sex can be VERY uncomfortable, so guys dont be so quick to brag in future, it may even put some women off you.
2007-03-23 00:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by looby 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How exactly do you mean "help"? Do you want someone else to offer to have sex with you instead, or are you looking more for someone to talk to you about the possibility of penile reduction surgery, I wonder?? Neither sounds especially likely.
2007-03-23 00:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can go to the doctor...I had a girlfriend do this before. They have different size stretching devices. I am totally serious. I still joke with her about it.
2007-03-23 00:47:59 · answer #11 · answered by gorsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋