A few days ago I decided to tell a friend who I was totally in love with that I loved her. She told me she liked me as a good friend and nothing more, and that she loved someone else. At first I accepted this, it hurt but I really like her and didn't want to loose her as my friend. The only thing is I am still really upset. It is now affecting my ability to do my job, and I am not interested in doing any of the things I usually am. I was already a heavy smoker and drinker, and this has made it worse, I have been drunk every day this week. To make it worse she is coming back home next weekend, (she stays at the other end of the country most of the time), i is my birthday and I don't know what to say to her. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 00:36:33 · 14 answers · asked by Matthew H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-23 00:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all Happy birthday.
No women is worth getting sick over. She was honest with you. You have to stop wallowing in self pity. Get your act together or you will lose her as a friend. Or maybe it is better if you just keep a casual relationship with her, and since she is out of the country most of the time your friendship will just dissipate. Her lover most probably lives in that country also.
Again, get your act together. Your are only hurting yourself. I don;t think she is the real reason you are so depressed, I think your nature is in general to have a tendency to be down, otherwise you would not be a heavy smoker, and drinker. You just giving yourself an exuse now to drink.
2007-03-23 07:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWW! Hey try to just get over the fact that you like her more than a friend, yeah it's easy for me to say right but look how it's effecting you. Those were words and feelings that you expressed and you got it out right so cool but things didn't work out as you thought they might so just try and get things back to the way they were so that you can still have a great relationship with this person. She sounds like an awesome friend and friends are to hard to come by.
Another thing to is the drinking isn't going to take anything away, just cause you more headaches so try and deal with this without the bottle. Sure the bottle can drowned your misery for a few hours everyday if you like but what good is that going to do.
And you never know to maybe one day something can turn out between you two and she knows how you feel so just try and leave that alone and let it take it's course.
Have a great Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 07:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As always, time is going to be the only thing to see you through this.
Don't see her this weekend if you feel you can't deal with it. Just send her a card and wish her all the best but say you have things to deal with at the moment and can't celebrate her birthday with her this time.
Try and start something to take your mind off it. Do you have a get-together football team at work? Does anyone you work with want to play tennis maybe? (if you do it with someone at work it may focus your attention back to your job).
It's not going to be easy, but you already know that heavily drinking won't do you any favours with this.
2007-03-23 07:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The demon drink could get you into trouble, mate...obviously it's your birthday and you'll want to have a few beers but bear in mind that booze tends to loosen your tongue - and the last thing you want to do is have a drunken confrontation with this girl on your birthday. If I were you I'd get myself a wing-man to keep me in line (i.e. if you start boozily telling her how much you love her / how much she hurt you then your wing-man can step in and gently ease the conversation away before things get out of hand). Have you told anyone else (preferably someone who knows the two of you) about your confession? They'd probably have a pretty good insight...it could be a bit embarrassing to admit (especially as she's done the 'just good friends' thing) but it'll ease the burden. Good luck, mate!
2007-03-23 07:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Leo B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is short. Your happiness does not depend on anyone else - IT DEPENDS ON YOU!
Get your act together, you are better than this, and you won't allow this kind of set back affect the other things about you that make you special and unique.
Distract yourself, I also suggest you watch a couple of flicks that will motivate you to live your life fully and not get depressed: 1/ Click, 2/ The Pursuit of Happiness.
2007-03-23 07:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Magix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This hurts bad mate! You just have to let time take it's course and accept her as a friend OR cut her off altogether
2007-03-23 07:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Sidney Snot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking so much it will only make you feel worse, alcohol is a depressant. Just let her go and find someone worthy of your attention, I'm sure there are plenty girls out there. x
2007-03-23 08:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should love youself as much as you love her and STOP smpoking and drinking..ever think that is why she doesn't want you...I would not date a man who does thoes things and neither would 1000 of women..think about it.....also you should not do thoes things because you like/love you too much to cause harm to yourself......and drinking is a depressant! It will make you more depressed! GO to your church or a therapist for help for you need to stop killing yourself.....physically and mentally! What you need to do is grow up also...you make your own choices and you have to live with them so.................
2007-03-23 07:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give up smoking
give up drinking
that's the point
if you are a good boy, there's a fair chance she may change her mind
2007-03-23 07:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋