I'm not talking about "oh he's cute" crushes. Talking about "wow, we have so much in common... he's everything I've wanted in a guy since I was 14" But she still won't leave me. I'm just sick of this. I find it disrespectful and inconsiderate that she expresses these thoughts to me if she doesn't have any real intention of leaving me. She just leaves me wondering if she ever will... I wish I could just be her everything. Is this something I should be really concerned about? Is it worth breaking up over? Thoughts please.
2007-03-23 00:25:12 · 8 answers · asked by Jay M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's being really thoughtless. She's either trying to get you to be jealous, or by describing what she likes in other guys, she's trying to get you to change. She sounds immature and inconsiderate. Have you ever told her how you feel about what she says? Next time she's going on and on about some other guy, say something like, "You know, you've got me. You can either love me and accept me for who I am. Or you can go and try to find the guy you've been waiting for since you were 14. Either way this is the very last time I want to hear you going on about some guy, make your choice now." Good Luck.
2007-03-23 00:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how old is your girlfriend? if she is young and you have been together a long time i wouldn't get to concerned just yet. first thing ask yourself would she act on these crushes. that is a big warning sign if she would then you probably will start to feel like you can't trust her which in turn will put strain on your relationship and then it will make her desire for someone else stronger. on the other hand if it is jujst a pssing thing like crushes usually are then you probably perfectlly safe. just remember that the foundation for a lasting relationship is trust and that if you can't trust her than you probably shouldn't be together.
2007-03-23 07:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by tamara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal for a girlfriend/fiance/wife to have crushes on other guys. It isn't, however, OK to announce these feelings to you all the time if it makes you uncomfortable. I'd rather not hear these things myself. I'd just talk to her and tell her that you think it's disrespectful and it hurts you to hear it. and she'll keep it to herself.
2007-03-23 07:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Edub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She´s using you - you´re obviously more of a friend.
Some girls so that, marrying a friend instead of a lover is more secure and safe (Yeah, I know marraige probs aint on the agenda quite yet) but maybe you should tell her. She´ll probs cheat, or already is. Stay friends - coz it seems like you´re her best one. But I dont think with an attitude like that that she should be your girlfriend...
2007-03-23 07:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how much it bothers you.....if she really cares about just you she will stop. She shouldnt be interested in checking out other guys if she is happy with just you. I personally wouldnt wanna be with someone like that but its up to you. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her packing , immediatelly b4 she makes you bite the dust. thats the highest level of disrespect
2007-03-23 07:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Stargate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better go tell her but be careful cause it may hurt her and she might break up. So think twice before you go tell her.
2007-03-23 07:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Naina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you if you want to deal with this.
2007-03-23 07:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋