2007-03-23 00:14:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you ddon't.
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe!
2007-03-24 02:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that love is based on shared morals, values and other interests that cannot be identified in another person upon first glance. Now, perhaps if that person was doing something to demonstrate one of those morals there's a slight possibility that love at first sight could happen, but it would be very slim if the love was sincere. I think that, like you said, for the most part, it's only when you come to know more about an individual that you can develop feelings of true love.
2016-03-29 00:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love at first sight does happen, I have experienced it. The attraction is very strong and mutual, again I do not know the reason, but it happens between two mature and gentle people, who want to give and not to take anything for their love, they have no expectation but only love, lots of love. These days the world is so commercialized that we want to profit from love and marriage and dowry etc. that love at first sight appears foolish and impossible.
2007-03-23 02:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct. Love at first sight is like spotting a bird while it is flying high and fast when you can't see or watch it seriously. Only when it is still and calm and you are free to do so. So is love, it requires, attention, thought, concentration, time and above all energy to judge if it is true love not fictional celluloid love.
2007-03-23 00:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love at first sight happens all the time but in the cases I've had and for the people I know it burns out as fast as it started.......real love..lasting love...takes time..............
2007-03-23 00:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,very true.
The test is: you will gradually grow over and forget about attraction as a passing fancy ;
But real love, when established leaves it's indelible mark on the heart, forever.
2007-03-23 04:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by mcmohan40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's where you're wrong., love at first sight do happen! it happened to me and my man, it was love at first sight., believe or not, its happens when you believe,,ü
2007-03-23 00:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have agreed except it happened to me and its not infatuation or lust --- ive been very careful to watch for that and my love has grown as i have got to know her better
2007-03-23 00:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know? are you the genie from Pee Wee Herman?.... Mecca lecca hi Mecca hiny ho.
2007-03-23 00:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. The first one is called "Infatuation".
2007-03-23 10:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by Haja Abu Bucker . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋