need help?
i love a grl frm our class ( 9th class ) who of the same age as mine (14). we have been friends from 8 years, and my close frndship has turned into love for her.
i cant imagine myself widout her at all...
nxt year after school, we have 2 part, nd i keep getting worried.
what shud b my nxt step? i dont want her 2 think i'm bad and leave me, cuz her frndship is very imp. she is sooooo nice
my feelings arent sexual at all
i donno watta do.....
if i get 2 kno her feelings, at least i'll have peace of mind
i love her soooooo much
pls, help
there are 2 things i am worried about
1) telling her now may mean loss of her frndship if she gets angry and rejects
2) telling her later, i mean keeping it 4 later may b'cm too late
which is better?
2007-03-23 00:03:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pay attention in school damnit!
2007-03-23 00:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u shud talk 2 her about it. as u r having a close frndship wth her,so i think that she'll understand ur feelings. But be prepared for any negative answer n if she refuses than pls don't cry like babies n find sum1 else.u shud propose her or else it'll become too late but talk very descently n if both of u r true frnds, i hope she will not break frndship with u. WISH U ALL THE BEST!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 07:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by BLOOM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are contradicting between yesses and no's. Familiar for 8 years & still unable to find an expression - if you think or feel that you're not infatuated or that you're too young to do all this then concentrate on things that would give you a befitting place in the society.
Remember first things first - rest will follow automatically-
good luck
2007-03-23 07:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by sadan_gts2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To keep friendship, love should not stand as hurdle. Be friend and meet her in their home, exchange books and guide her in studies since you are senior and be a family friend and maintain this relationship. Never express that you love her. Becaue love has many meanings and misunderstanding lead losing your friendship. Hence, do not come out with the word of love. Make only friendship and act to that point only.
2007-03-27 05:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by sr50kandala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in a sweet way such that she will not feel intimidated. Tell her that she is really sweet and that she means a lot to you ... tell her you will miss her and your time together after your school term gets over. If you think saying "I love you" might make her defensive, dont say that. Don't ask her for any answers, just compliment her and express your affection for her. Keep the situation normal ... and see how she reacts. If you think its not going well, you can take the conversation to another topic. If she is responding well to your compliments then maybe she feels the same way you do.
2007-03-23 07:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Magix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear student, Why are you killing yourself with anxiety? Let the things take their course and allow time to mature things and at the opportune time, when you mature in age and experience, you will be able to think better. In adolescence (young age) and teenage years everything looks very charming, asking you to die for it and sometimes tempting you to wrong course, diverting you from your precious studies to some very drastic and revengeful act which only leads to destruction which nobody wishes for his dearest one. So, even if you have to part with somebody dearest to you, just think best of her and be ready to sacrifice your desire over the welfare of your Friend. That's the best course of action in my view.
2007-03-23 07:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mahesh R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the next time u get to talk to her alone. Just put across to her that you love her and would be happy to be loved by her too or accepted as a True Friend all through her life.
Personal Note:
Nobody is Indispensable in Life, hence if she rejects your love and Friendship, don't feel bad about it. The loss is not yours but hers.
2007-03-23 07:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by 2_b_or_not_2_b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello james,, well i say this,, tell her an get it out of the way,, here why,, life , is short,, i mean this, say you dont tell her, an for some reason, she get run over, are god call her,, , that mean you blame your self for not letting her know how you feel,,,, if she a friend, an i think she is,,,you wont loose her, she may tell you she dont feel the same way, but you know for sure,,,,never hold back,, realy life if a flame in life, an can go out at any time
2007-03-23 07:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mingle with other girls too! You will get similar friends . Also try to be friendly to others in front of your dream girl. Observe her attitude. You judge your attitude with her. This school life is for studies. Study and share study matters with others irrespective of gender. your mind may become broad and get power to see things as what they are.
2007-03-23 07:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by thannickan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leaving it a long time really doesn't work, if you confess your feelings now and she doesn't feel the same you can easily get over it (I hope) but if you leave it for a long time and it ends up that she had liked you the whole time.. well you wasted all that time, that you could of spent with her.
2007-03-23 07:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Lisa*~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just call her for an evening date.Tell her about ur feelings n assure her that u'll remain like her old friend only.
Never collect worries for urself in life.Either stay this side or that side............
2007-03-23 07:28:20 · answer #11 · answered by Fun Loving Gal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋