Last girl did b/c she bought her a few things early on (toys, balloon, ...), I guess that was too fast. I LOVE children but am unsure of what to do, say, .... Any advice and especially from men who are in the same situation, single Dad and dating.
2007-03-22 23:54:08 · 7 answers · asked by J girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't buy the affection of a four-year-old, but you darn sure can ask her father for suggestions on how to approach her. I'd say treat her with dignity and respect, even though she is only four. She hasn't that much experience with other people at that age, and is likely to remember her and her father's relationship with his ex in a negative light. She won't know whether to trust you until she'd had the opportunity to check you out carefully and at a rate that's comfortable for her.
Been there and done that: only I was the guy and she had they young kids - a heartbreakingly sweet little girl as skittish as a fawn and a doubtful little guy. I won 'em over - but it took time and it took treating them like little adults. To this day, seventeen years later, they both still thank me for that approach. I commend it to you...
2007-03-23 00:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buying gifts for the children early on makes it look like you're trying to buy them. Just be yourself. Talk to her and treat her like a person.
2007-03-23 07:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by dble_ll28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take things easy and remember he comes as a package.
Did he tell you that she scared him away by buying things? If so it was maybe a subtle hint not to worry and feel as though you have to buy her affection.
Just be yourself and you will be fine.
Good Luck
2007-03-23 06:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am married with the guy who has 2 daughters and i have 3 sons. so here what i am to say to u: no children should rule your life. if your bf decides whether he keeps his woman according to whether his 4 year old daughter likes her or not i don't think any normal woman with normal self esteem should even consider dating him. this is relationships between u and him, u don't need his daughter to approve u or like u or whatever. if she doesn't like u she has to suck it in. i never asked whether my 3 children like my husband or not. neither he asked his daughters. we are together because we love each other, not because our children approved it
2007-03-23 07:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep doing what you're doing...sounds like you're off to a great start. The way you scare someone away is to change who you are and what you do.
GCW!
2007-03-23 06:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Go Chuck Wow! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and act friendly and naturally...You're her dad's new supposed partner so don't make her feel you want to steal him. And don't make her feel you wanna take role of her mom. She is not supposed to obey your statements. She's his daughter, so don't fight over your guy --he's got u.
2007-03-23 06:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know now is the time to open yourself to her, and let the love shine in. Go for what you need,not what you want.
2007-03-23 07:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by James S55$$ where I give you ME. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋