My bf and I have been together for over a year but we he had our ups and downs as he is facing some problems and usually thrown into depression.We are in love and we have many things in common and get along rather well.thats besides that we are best friends.The problem is that he says he loves me but needs a break to think about our future together before we take the step to get married because we had a horrible fight and I reminded him about problems his parents face at home. So he wants a break not because he doesnt know if he loves but he wants to be 100% sure we wont have problems in the future and wants a clear mind as we are always together.Can anything be 100% sure?Do you think he really does love me? Should I accept to wait till he is over with his break?I love him so much and I know he does too...
2007-03-22 23:51:47 · 5 answers · asked by LovenLost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says is hs nothing to do with me but its depression and problems that affect his judgement...just wants a clear mind
2007-03-22 23:53:12 · update #1
and im not pressurig him into marriage now...
2007-03-23 00:03:23 · update #2
Don't press him. You're giving him that uncomfortable ball-and-chain sensation. But if you don't do anything to confirm that feeling for a while, he'll get used to it.
2007-03-22 23:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by dickdamick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through, Im at the same stage. My boyfriend has moved out of the house, away from me and the kids.He says he still loves me but i am putting pressure on him and that is making it hard for him to come back. Dont pressure him that only makes things worse and makes you look like the nagging woman. Dont give him that amunition. If he loves you he will be back. As for being sure that you wont have any problems in the future, Thats never gona happen. No one can predict the future and life is all about having problems, overcomming them and learning from your mistakes. Try and chill. I know its hard (i am finding it very difficult) but if he needs his space let him have it. Get on with your life and let him see that you are your own person.
good luck hun. x
2007-03-23 08:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you but now feels depressed and frustrated.
Dont press him at the moment, because will get worse
Give him little time and use it to make something nice for yourself - new haircut, relaxing massage, some shopping.
Good luck
2007-03-23 07:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by cherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't know now, he never will. He may be banging some chick on the side.
2007-03-23 06:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, WAIT
2007-03-23 06:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋