my friend is with a guy that is completely and 100% possessive over her. He is so insecure. When they first got together she noticed how possessive he was and she said she hated it. The more and more he woo'ed her the more and more she would let him control her. He does not like her talking to any other guy. So now she doesn't really talk to any other guys. She couldn't stay at my house during Superbowl while he was at work, because there were a few of me and my boyfriend's guy friends there and she would have to sit next to them. I barely see her anymore and I've told her that I think that he is overboard on something. She says she sees my concerns but she is happy. Her whole family and most of her friends don't like the guy she is with. Should I continue being friends with her and just let her make her own decisions or what?
2007-03-22 23:48:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she needs all the friends she can get so yes, still be her friend. I think you need to let her know that she is becomming part of her boyfriend and not a person in her own right. Why not have a girly night? (no boys) And reassure her boyfriend that she is not gona be going off with any other guys. That way you can tell her your feelings on how this guy is controlling her.It also sounds like someone needs to take this guy asside and let him know what he is doing and that he should work on his trust issues because that is what it all comes down to..he dosnt trust her!
2007-03-23 02:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are huge red flags. Your friend should consider leaving him alone and allow him time to work through his issues, this is not a healthy relationship. Go and do a search on domestic violence, some of the red flags in a relationship, he will probably cover a great deal of them. And then go and speak with her about it. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-23 06:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue being her friend but don't take it personally. She is going to need you when it is time to leave this jerk. It will probably get worse before it gets better for her.
2007-03-23 06:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by hotrod69grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just can tell her as a good friend how you see the situation..............but she can only make her own decision...........but sooner or later she will notice what is going on ...........and that her bf not love her......that he just control her.....................and then she is coming back to you .......and then she needs a friend.....................then .....please be there for her
2007-03-23 06:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by night_age_germany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her over to hot BOB party. That would set him straight.
2007-03-23 06:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋