Im so quiet on my date,how do i improve my talking skills,she always does the talking,i have a feeling i bore?

Answer 1

if your in the UK go to toast masters its free and really helps talking and self confidence

Answer 2

Type into your search engine............... improve talking skills

There are many many web sites that will come up. It will improve not only your talking skills for a date, but talking skills in general.

However, I have a feeling that she does not feel you are a bore otherwise she would not continue dating you. Most girls, women enjoy doing the talking. Many people suggest that a women, girl, is on a date or even in a marriage you should be a "good listener". That shows, and makes them feel that you are really interested in what they are saying. I wouldn't worry too much about it. But if you "feel" insecure go to the "improve talking skills" web in your search engine. By the way feelings, are not facts so just relax.

Hope I helped you.

Answer 3

For some reason, most men I have dated are like that, quiet. Sometimes I loose the interest of going out with a guy that makes me do all the talking during the date. It really overcharges me. If I go out with a guy that does that all the time, I get tired and give up. It seems he is analysing me and I can't do the same because he doens't talk. It makes me feel exposed.
You are right on trying to improve yourself on this matter. Try to do comments to the things she says, don't mind of being critical, you can show your point politely by giving examples and tell things that influence your opinion. Try not to be too general about something, be specific, otherwise it will seem you work too much and looks like you are talking with your boss. I can't tell how many guys I have dated that were quiet and when they finally started to talk, they were so respectful and unsecure, that made me feeling we were doing some business and I was his boss ! After while I realize that silence, was because they work too much and they are a toltally different person at work. The work is the place they feel confident becasue they are sure about the results, so they relax and talk.
A good thing you can do, is too talk about your job but not just talk about that. Some guys become very excited to talk about their job and become very talkative, than we can finally get some rest of the talking, and pay attention to him too. I hope my experience comes to help you.

Answer 4

Quiet is not a bad thing, especially if you are able to answer questions she asks you, and ask her things, and not just sitting there dumb as a post. Most people are flattered when someone asks them questions. Make sure you have a few conversation starters in your head before you go out - use your natural curiousity to get her engaged in the conversation, and all you'll have to do is keep it going. Like, 'why did you choose to work where you do?' 'What do you like doing in your spare time?' 'Where did you go to school? What was school like for you?' ' What's your family like, are you close or distant?'

It just takes a bit of practice to do the basic conversation stuff, then hopefully over time you'll feel more relaxed to open up about yourself a bit.

Boring is: a) a guy who won't shut up about himself, or b) a guy that just sits there looking off into the distance and never tries to find out more about me.

Answer 5

I can tell you now that women love a man who listens! You don't have to talk about yourself the whole time, just ask her questions about herself and answer questions she asks about you, etc. I would put money on the fact that she is not thinking you are a bore but that you are just a good listener! Just relax and go with the flow. Don't be ashamed to talk about things you've done in your life if a subject arises. You could compare stories on crazy, silly, stupid or funny things you've said or done. You sound like a good bloke to even be worrying about it in the first place. KNOW that you are a nice bloke and just enjoy her company. :) Good luck x x

Answer 6

Find a talkitive date, so you have to only listen!

Though I can give you one advise...whenever you talk or answer questions, limit the usage of single answers...like yes, no... and try to leave things open ended... this always makes the converstaion flowing, you leave from someplace, the other picks up from there and so on.

Answer 7

Best Conversation Topics For Dates

go to this site

http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/conversation_topics.htm

Answer 8

plan a couple subjects earlier but dont get to eager to use them just use them as a last resort do not interupt conversation to ask one they could be a compliment (always good) but also fid out what she likes even maybe ask about her friends ever droe on and also use a mirror it may seem nerdy but it would still help

Answer 9

make a list of things you want to talk about. or find it on the internet. Then memorize it and bam. If you are shy, then get a friend to push you in, by telling her that you want to say something!

Answer 10

Dude man, you really need to figure out something to say. Girls hate boring guys. Talk about some FarOut crazy stuff, something......