I'm very shy when it comes to the opposite sex...?

Question

Usually I'm out-going and a quite loud, but when it comes to a matter of the heart I freeze and I'm suddenly soooo shy. Can you give me some advice or something? I'd really like to find me someone special...

Answer 1

u should try to be with them most of the time.......to get that shyness out of u, u need to live with it

Answer 2

I have the same problem, I never approach the men I am interest to be with. I look at him and if he doesn't look back, I don't even bother.
The problem is some guys have told me that this attitude of mine, gives the impression of not being interested on the guy. They told me I should try more by keeping looking at the guy or initiating a conversation, but I hate to have someone I show no interest on, be pushing and following me with their eyes. It really upsets me, so I feel If I keep looking a guy that didn't return my look, should be left on peace and respect his space. I only get shy over men I feel attracted too, those I don't feel nothing, I talk, I approach and everything goes normal but the problem is they are not what I am into. My ex boyfriend almost gave up on me, because he was sure I wasn't into him. Maybe the way I hide my excitement give them the idea of no interest at all, when in the reality is just shy.

Answer 3

what makes u shy in the first place? when u find it, then try to overcome it little by little. say if u r too shy to talk to a guy u like, probably u could start if u go on a group dates or talk about a common topic. if say someone invites u and u dont know how to answer, ask yourself if u really want to. if u could talk to your guy friends, when u see another guy whom u like, it will be easy too when u treat him like a friend too. it will help u to put in ease and at the same time show ur true color. so in some way u r hitting two birds w/ one stone. good luck....

Answer 4

I am the exact same way. It really sucks b/c you end up avoiding the people you really want to be around. It's not that you're actaully afraid to talk to them but you just don;t want to look like an idiot to them when you freeze up. I can;t say I've totally gotten over my shyness but how I combat it is to go out there and force myself to do the things I get shy when doing. it has helped alot and hopefully one day I'll get rid of my shyness altogether.

Answer 5

Tongue-tied huh? Happens to all of us occassionally. Probably you're too worked up on what to say when you meet a guy you like. Relax, start the conversation on easy topics. A simple compliment of his shirt, hair is a great way to break the ice. Don't start with "Are you seeing anyone?"...it's a real trun-off for us guys & usually you'll get a half-true answer as well. Good luck girl!!

Answer 6

I am the same way as you, all I can really say is, if you like someone try not to hesitate to tell them or else it will be too late, I lost my chances a lot of time due to my shyness just like you and I regret it. I am still that way now.

Answer 7

if you are shy with the opposite sex, try going for the same sex. that might help.

Answer 8

Talk to them, they are people to, they have feelings just like you or me. Let your guard down a little and be your self.

Answer 9

my advice is to just be yourself around guys, and one of them will see you for who you really are, and ask you out! love never comes when you go looking for it, it just appears when you're least expecting it. so the right one will come along and somehow manage to make his way into your life, or you will manage to make your way into his.

Answer 10

Be confident and honest! At the same time, be on your guard. Act natural.