I don't know what to do?

Question

I Went out with this girl from work, she's great, we get along so well, and have so much fun. We even danced in the parking lot last night when my keys got locked in my car, there's only 2 problems, one I'm her supervisor, and 2 she has a boyfriend, and although they've been rocky for a long time, I don't want to be the cause of their break up, but then when I was with her it was more fun then i had in so long, we almost kissed a few times, and were going out again today. How is it something so wrong could be so great? She's not sure if she wants to leave him, but she said she always has so much fun with me, and the only time she smiles anymore is when she talks to me or see's me. HELP!

Well a few days have past, she called me yesterday, her and her b/f made up, and now she's saying the whole thing is my fault, and that I've lost her trust. I told her that I was sorry, and that I over-stepped my bounds, and that it went against my character. I told her that I hoped we could still be friends, but I have a feeling I'm going crazy!

Answer 1

You are treading in dangerous territory there buddy. Number one, because you are her superior if you start a relationship and something goes wrong then she can shout "Sexual Harassment!" Number two, you don't want to come into the middle of her relationship. I think that you need to back down a little bit. Be friendly but don't take it much further than that. If she asks you about it then tell her that you don't think it would be a good idea right now because of the circumstances. If she breaks up with her guy and transfers to another department or gets another job then go for it.

Answer 2

you know whats hard when u like someone who is already committed but the relartionship of that person is in that "rocky state"? you are not sure if that person really likes u or if u r being used as a substitute. i guess you should give her more time to decide what she really wants from u.and its hard to jump in a new relationship if u just come out from a bad one. the magic maybe present now but we r not sure if it will be the same let say when u both decided to get serious. and then there's work. if u have a petty fight we cant say for sure if it will not affect each other's performance.there r so many things to consider. so give it a thought first. think if all these are worth enough to try and be serious w/ her in the future...good luck...

Answer 3

Dating someone you supervise is a bad idea, usually against company policy, and is illegal in many areas. Why? Because how can you evaluate her work fairly, and how can she KNOW it's her work you are evalutating? How can you know her smiles and reactions aren't motivated by a need to appease her boss and keep her job? How can anyone else who works with you, as your employee, peer, or boss, respect EITHER of you?

Dating someone who already has a boyfriend has other problems. Bad foundation for a relationship.

Here's an idea: quit your job, get another, wait until her relationship breaks up, THEN date this girl.

Answer 4

Could you lose your job if you date her? Is she worth it? Could she sue you for sexual harrassement in the work place?

And if she has a boyfriend, you can only be friends. The moment she cheats, even if she ends up leaving him for you, would you be able to trust her that she wouldnt cheat on you as well?

If you really like her, you have to be honest and open about your feelings. And tell her, you dont want her for a fling, you want her as yours. So she needs to decide, and you will respect her either way.

Answer 5

It takes 2 to tango, she is obviously interested. BUT you are her supervisor, so you have to tread lightly that could be a problem. The bf, bothers me a little bit if she interested in you them why would she be hanging on to him? Maybe its best you find out her intentions before things go wrong.

Answer 6

Maybe* . . you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you
feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person,
too.
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Maybe* . . you should do something nice for someone every single day, even
if it is simply to leave them alone.
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Maybe* . . giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will
love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in
their heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.
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Maybe* . . . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all
those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can
appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives

Answer 7

hey men look.................
1 years ago,i also have your problem.
i leave her.
but 2day,I'm worry about my decision.
because..i also have a lot of fun form her.
don't do like me ,
don't leave her.enjoy from her.sex more & more with her.
but don't love 4 her.she's b i t c h..
get every thing from her.
after you feel she's nothing.then kick for that b i t c h.
be a good player.don't miss your chance.

Answer 8

are you stupid????? stop dating her asap if you value your job in any level. All it takes is one complaint from her to HR and your done...even if your in the right, they take her word over a guy's any day.....if you don't value your job or the reference they give, go a head, nail that girl....

Answer 9

Did you paint 'sucker' on your forehead?

You are getting sucked in.
If she really meant it she would leave him BEFORE she flirted with you.

Do you want to be the next him?

Answer 10

forget her quick smart,shes after a promotion friend,she,ll do anythink to ....please ---you....but you must not take advantage of your power trip,so simply pay her double and ---------------------------- ----