your father says you marry but your mind nad heart says no . what is right to do religiously.?

Answer 1

You have to bear the burden of marriage not your father. So don't marry unless you are ready....

Answer 2

From your typing, you sound like you might not be an American. If you live in America, I think you can marry whoever you want. But depending on your religion, do you have to follow arranged marriages? If you do not love the other person thta your father has picked for you, I can only suggest that you express your thoughts and feelings to your parents openly. Write them all down so you don't forget them and in case your father interupts you, you won't forget either. Stay on task and don't give up. If it a mandatory part of your religion, can you make a compromise, and ask your father that you have a long engagement and get to know your future spouse for a year before you are to get married. That way maybe you might fall in love. Or if in one year you don't fall in love, you can talk to your father again and he will see that a forced marriage just isn't good for your heart or soul.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You have not told us what religion or the culture you live in. How can we comment on this with any cerainty? I am concerned about you because I know the reprisals can be unthinkable for many women around the world if they do not follow their families decission.

Show love and respect to your parents. See if you can convince them this is not right for you. If you are in a country like Canada or the United States you have every legal right to put a stop to this. You could even go so far as to stay in a womens shelter if you thought any harm might come to you. That is what they are there for.

Consult your spiritual community. If that is an option for you.

I cannot fathom it. I am such a free spirit I could not do it.

Marry only for love.


Peace!

Answer 4

Marriage is a different Entity that , you and you're Mate enter together and from that Day forward, you're Mate and Marriage must come before anything or any one. What does this mean: Unless all the right ingredients for a partnership is there, like,
true love, honesty and hopefully God as well, DON'T GET MARRIED.
You alone will make this decision when the time is right, so, LET NO ONE TELL YOU TO GET MARRIED!

Answer 5

According to the Bible, we must honor our father and mother BUT we must obey God rather than men, so if there is any reason to think that marrying this person would be going against God, you should respectfully request that your father reconsider. The Bible says to marry only in the Lord which means that the marriage mate should have the same dedication to doing God's will as you, yourself.

Answer 6

I don't know about religiously, but ethically you gotta respect your parents and listen to your heart too. But at times it does happen that we are not just ready for some changes in life. YOu can always talk to your father and make him realize taht you are mentally not prepared for a marriage. BTW, what's your age? Cos if your age is a bit high, I'd suggest you to change you mind.

All the best...

:-)

Answer 7

Bhismadeva took a vow not to marry. He did not accept his mother Satyavati's or anyone else's sayings. He even fought with his guru Parshurama in this matter and finally Parshurama was pleased with him after the battle.

If your father is in sattva guna you can give your good reasons and hear from his reasons.

If your father is in rajo or sattva guna, then better not to discuss the matter with him and you decide yourself.
Your father will realise later and appreciate your right decision.

Answer 8

How old are you? In this country, you could fight this in court!
Ask your dad if he loves you and wants your happiness.
Tell him that unless you marry for love,
you can not be happy with a man.
If because of your religion's belief, your dad doesn't or won't permit you to do otherwise, you'll simply have to devote your life at pleasing the true God, who can make all things possible.
Depending on your age, you could always run away and meet people (not unlike me) who could assist you in getting out of such a belief system.
What can I say?
I'm sorry to see you in this predicament!
You have to take care of yourself or else, you will be taken care of!
May the true God's spirit come to your rescue.
Of course, it wouldn't hurt if you moved on it too, ASAP.

Answer 9

if u r a normal person, u should listen to u r father and live discharging the duties of grahastha dharma.
if u r interested in spiritual things seek surrenderness to a guru. he will guide u.

duties of grahastha dharma : after being educated, start earning in a wise way. then marry and have children for the continuation of u r family. give shelter to animals and birds. support sadhoos/sanyasi's, elderly ones and students.

Answer 10

Marry for love, and love alone and do not settle for anything less.
Honey i feel so sorry for you ,being in a situation like this!
But your heart and mind is telling you these things for a reason.
Listen to them!
I have heard of people saying that you will grow to love someone...that is not true. You either love them or you don't, you may grow accustomed to them, but grow to love them, i don't think so.
You deserve to be truly loved and have the joy of loving someone completely. Please don't settle for anything else, no matter what the situation is.
Good Luck Honey!

Answer 11

My father has no control over who I marry. I am not going to get stuck with some sap for God knows how long just because my Dad said so. In addition, if you are not ready for it or not in love with who you are marrying, that is a bigger sin than fighting with your father. You WILL end up in divorce, cheating on your husband, or visa versa, which is a sin in God's eyes, depending on your religion. I WOULD NOT do it. Hope this helps!!!