My boyfriend wont get off the computer! What can i do!?

Question

All day and all night, 24/7 my boyfriend, who is also the father of my baby, and my fiance, sits on the computer. He is very addicted to online games such as World Of Warcraft. I dont know what to do to get off the computer and spend more time with me and our child.

Answer 1

Oooh flashback of my relationship two years ago.

DONT unplug the computer or turn off his game, that will infuriate him (been there done that). And its very disrespectful.

And especially if its WoW, its an online game, where he talks to other people and groups with other people. Its not just a game you can save and log off, other peoples gaming relys on him... as lame as that sounds.

I expressed interest in his gaming. And would play with him sometimes, if you can get two computers that would help. You just make sure that the people he plays with KNOW he has a girlfriend and a child. And then you start to set family times. Like Monday night you watch t.v. together. Sunday you take your child to the park. Ect, ect.

You need to explain to him, that you have no problem with him playing the game. But you guys have a family, and you have to do everyhting in moderation. There is a time to play the game and there is a time with family. And he doesnt need to do it so exessively.

(Oh and dont tell him this while he is playing, it will either anoy him, or go in one ear and out the other)

Good luck, and if you need any other advise, I have that too. I tried like 100 things and it took me about 8 months to get it through his head to get it at a happy level for us.

Answer 2

Gaming, at the level of committment that some MMORPG's can take, is becoming more and more like drinking. Either both partners in a couple do or they don't.

If one or the other is more into it than the other, it will be a problem.

Both activities have their own negative connotations, social and health risks - and both are a form of recreation than can turn quickly into an addiction if used as an escape.

Rebekka's advice is very strong, I must second everything she suggests. You need to make certain that he doesn't take it as a you vs. the game because that will just set you at odds for all conversations on the topic. Don't try to sabotage his playing, it's very disrespectful and as Rebekka points out - this isn't a save and put down sort of game. The world is always on here, and there are people potentially relying upon his character being there.

Don't approach it as a problem, approach it as a means to find out more about him. Do work on a compromise - most people are more willing to do this if they feel that the other sees their side of the story too. Express some interest in what he is doing (best not to do this while he is currently consumed in the activity, as annoying as it is :P), and honestly the more you understand the game the more you're going to be able to understand what he's doing.

WoW, also like most MMO's is extremely social based. By being in the same community circle as his online friends there and adding an identity to his life will help them also appreciate and respect his role in real life. That is, they will be forced to acknowledge that you are in fact a real person who obviously deserves his time too, and many WoW communities are very respectful and encourage family time - especially if they know both the members in the relationship.

Answer 3

Well there is a way you can deal with this. Find some time while he is alone and doing nothing and tell him how much you love him and how much you care for him. Dont stop him from playing games, suggest him there is a new game which is released recently and he should try it instead of playing world of warcraft all the time. Find out the recent games in the Market and tell him of other games soon he will try other games and he will eventually get bored of games.
And if possible sit next to him and watch him playing the game and try to cheer him up and eventually try to seduce him at the same time by giving him real naughty looks and showing some skin and try exotic ways of having sex and get him addicted to it. But make sure you wear nice perfume on you and wear real seducing clothes. Soon he will be yours and only yours.

And if this does not work invite one of your friends to your place and try acting close to him not so close that you will end up breaking up. Just make him jealous of the other guy and I am sure this will work.
I hope this helps.
thanks

Answer 4

When he goes to the bathroom, unplug the processor fan. That will kill the processor very quickly.

When the computer is broken, give him some really hot sex. That will remind him why he shouldn't be on the computer so much.

If it doesn't work the first time, I guarantee there are many more ways to damage a computer. :)

Good luck!

Answer 5

well he must have got of the computer long enough for you to type your question.........first not all boyfriends/husbands find their partners sexy after having a baby......send the baby over to grandparents for the night and make a romantic meal for you both (or go out) buy some sexy nightie and get down to busy and then hopefully he might start paying more attention to you and bub again....

Answer 6

bring it to a computer repair place they'll probly check out the power supply and make sure its working properly if not they can replace it might cost a cool $100-200 though

Answer 7

Tell him you understand that he likes the game alot, but maybe he should try to spend MORE time with you and your child. Ask him to set his prorities right

Answer 8

I do the samething! He'll get bored soon after 5 years! Or just ask him to pay attention to your baby and you!

Answer 9

Disable the comp. Tell him shape up or ship out!

Answer 10

cut the cables