ok i have been freinds with this girl for six months or so i want to ask her out which is no problem but i cant ask her out because of parental restraines that my parents gave (cant date till 17, im 15) the reason they give me is "its nothing you have done but its what people your age do" (word for word quote) what do i do.
2007-03-22 22:31:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yea i tried talking to them maturally but then they came un glued and yelled examples of underage sex (i dont want to do that in this relationship) while i was just sitting in the chair whatching them yell at me
2007-03-22 22:39:16 · update #1
they are 60 years old and go on and on about how back when they were a kid (....)
2007-03-22 22:40:11 · update #2
im not looking for a long term relationship and neither is she its just casual
2007-03-22 22:43:43 · update #3
i'll wait till college to get a serious relationship
2007-03-22 22:44:34 · update #4
im in ap classes with a 3.8 gpa and do track and have alot of time left
2007-03-22 22:48:33 · update #5
how am i wining i am just wondering how to deal with parents who if i just ask them in a professional way "mom, dad can i ask Laurn out" "no u cant ask that ***** out (they have never seen or herd of her) have u seen the newspaper *paper being trown in my face* see now what do u have to say to that"
*giving them a few seconds to calm down, remaining in my seat, and keeping my voice in a professional tone*
"mom, dad I just want to ask her out to a movie tonight here is the information on the movie im not going to....."
(parents) just get out of here u ***** and go to your room
*i walk away*
2007-03-22 22:55:20 · update #6
ok i spelled whining wrong
2007-03-22 22:56:48 · update #7
this is 100% true of what they did when I asked if i could ask her tomarrow (friday)
2007-03-22 23:01:59 · update #8
they are usually very level headed but once i bring this topic up o my gosh
2007-03-22 23:02:44 · update #9
From a parents point of view, and this is probably not the answer you want, but I agree with your parents, though I have 2 girls not boys, so thats probably different again.
The thing is your parents are just looking out for your best interests, you need to focus on your schooling, and Im sorry but dating does cause distractions, not to mention extra stress on your parents. So you may not be like the other kids your age and you may have no plans to do the wrong thing...but you have your whole life infront of you...2 yrs wont make that much difference in the long run. I say ultimatly you respect your parents wishes, let them know you fancy a girl and leave it at that...if you can show your maturity then perhaps they will drop the age limit lower, but you will need to prove yourself first, and whining like a 10 yr old wont help get your point across or make you look as grown up as you want to be...
hope this helps...even if its not what you want to hear...
2007-03-22 22:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dating in high school is overrated. Skip the drama and just stay friends. It's painful either way, but you'll last longer. Your parents probably want you to wait because they wish for you to have a fulfilling relationship, not just a casual "fling" type. I had an adult once ask me why we date in the first place. To find someone you are ready to have a lifelong relationship with. Then she asked me if I was old enough to have a lifelong relationship. That was rather thought provoking for me.
2007-03-23 05:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As the parent of girls, part of me is so tickled to see the parents of a boy take a proactive step it's hard to be on your side. But, I have not forgotten what it was like to be in high school. So...
Ask them, respectfully, what sort of parameters they will set for you when you are seventeen. Suggest some for yourself. For example, right now, the girl would have to come and meet them. You promise never to be with her in private where there aren't parents around. Perhaps you can agree that for now you will only go in a group to pre-approved places.
Honestly, though, it's not looking too good for you buddy. But best of luck anyway.
2007-03-23 08:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about asking if the girl can come over to your house for dinner and to watch a DVD? That way your parents can be there to see how you behave together. I know it seems lame from a teen perspective, but at least you'd get to spend some time together.
2007-03-23 11:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents, are 100% correct. It has nothing to do with their age. You are to young to go on dates. It has to do with your hormones are running rampid, and your emotional stablility at this age. Just keep your mind on your school work, hang out with your friends. Every age has it's privileges.
You yourself say your parents are level headed. By respecting their rules, you are getting points for the future when you do start to date. They then will respect your choices.
2007-03-27 04:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
guess they are just looking out for your best intrest, but at the same time it isnt fair to punish you for everyone elses mistakes. i wish i could help, but it seems you arent going to break them, i would just hang in there and keep getting to know this girl, there is nothing wrong with just being friends. you sound like a good kid, most kids wouldnt listen to their parents if they gave them a rule like that.
wish you the best.
2007-03-23 07:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You paint a graphic picture. I'm sorry I can't help you. When faced with that kind of unreasoning intransigence, you only have a couple of options. I'm guessing you know what they are. Keep the faith, dude; in a couple of years you'll be old enough to do what you want.
2007-03-23 06:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be mature sit your parents down and tell them that you arent like others your age...sounds like they worried you'll jump into bed the first chance you get....the more mature you are about it the better the outcome should be for you
2007-03-23 05:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by deni 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋