i met this girl about 7 months ago, she is canadian but her company sent her to work here in france for a year, anyway when i met her she told me that she has a boyfriend back in canada and they've been together for almost 5 years.
i didn't show her any interest and we started running into each other because we are in the same circle of friends and then we became very close and there was chemistry and so we agreed to become "Friends with benefits" but then we became even closer! and there was so much passion, and then she says she wants to be exclusive and we started dating for a while
at this point she tells me that she wanted to break up with her boyfriend even before we met.
so now she went back to canada to break up with her 5 years boyfriend and she'll be back in a couple of weeks
here's my dilemma:
did she hook up with me just to make it easier for her to break up with her 5 years or was she really interested???? and when she comes back should i give her some space or date her!!
2007-03-22 22:24:55 · 14 answers · asked by Slash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had to go back there because they were living together and she needed to take her stuff out of his place, and you can't end a 5 years relationship with a phone call!!!
but yes, she confessed to have had break-up sex with him!!! and she told me that i can sleep with other girls while she is away!!! God, i feel like a sucker!!!
2007-03-22 22:25:10 · update #1
Oh... that sucks. Really. I'm sorry to hear it.
But even before you mentioned the break-up sex, I had a feeling that would be happening. You probably sensed that as well.
If nothing else she was honest with you about it. Frankly, I'd tell her how hurt you felt because of that. Whether you end up dating her or not.
Don't just blow her off because of it, but don't pretend like it's no big deal. You have to talk to her about it to find out if you should be with her or not.
If nothing else, if you do date her, her cheating will be a "get out of jail free" card for you at some time in the future.
2007-03-22 22:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pal ,,,, You are a sucker ,,,, If she's done this sort of thing to her boyfriend of 5 years then what makes you think she won't do it to you ,,,, Friends with benefits ? Great but don't let her benefit from it ,,,, Keep your own place so when you get fed up with her you have a place to go to get away from her ,,,,
As for her break up with her boyfriend ,,,, You can't blame yourself for that ,,,, Her relationship was over with him the moment she agreed to start things with you ,,,, She probably didn't want to break up with the one in Canada until she had another place or person to go to ,,,, You just happened to be the one she used as an excuse is all ,,,, And really you don't know how many shes had between you and him when she left Canada the first time ,,,,
And what's this thing you referred to as break up sex ,,,, Does this woman have a brain at all even ? ,,,, You'd better be careful because if she lose enough to have sex with you there and her boyfriend in Canada then how many guys has she had sex with in between ,,,, She's a breeding ground for STD's ,,,, Were I in your position I'd get as far away from that gal as quick as I could and stay gone ,,,, You'd be better off with terminal cancer ,,,,
You need to go fishing and find some one that's fun and exciting to be with that doesn't lay down for every swinging organ she runs into ,,,, They are out there all you have to do is find one ,,,, Usually a few of them even come trouble and problem free too ,,,,
You'd better do some serious thinking about what you are contemplating and look at it from all angles before you make a move ,,,,
Yoda told you this ,,,,
2007-03-22 23:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. I am sorry. Its prolly not what you want to hear.
But she cheated on her boyfriend with you? Once a cheater always a cheater.
What happens if you guys date, and then she goes back to Canada. Can you really trust her to not sleep with someone else? I mean you couldnt even trust her to not sleep with the man shes breaking up with!
I would say, keep it friends with benefits if you like her. Treat her as she treated you. If your still into that is. And wait for a good woman to come around, and then cut her off.
2007-03-22 22:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as quickly as I examine all the story i ought to work out very fairly that she has already confirmed you that she would be waiting to not be truthful to you the two. she replaced into not truthful to her previous, (if she relatively had to end with him heavily , she might have achieved it till now assembly you, she is hooking as much as you). even nowshe is notfaithful to you and he or she admits it, and that i promise she wont be interior the destiny. so bif you wanna flow on along with her , you will possibly extra effective have this in recommendations that don't start up some thing severe, cos' she would be waiting to three day do to you what she has achieved to his previous. if i've got been you i does not date her anymore, cos' to her men are in basic terms sexual products, not human beings.
2016-10-19 09:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by scafuri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be some truth in what she is saying. Her feelings for you is more 'lust' than love. If I were you, I will observe her after she returns and if the chemistry is still there, go ahead with the relationship.
2007-03-22 22:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes just playing you. It seems like she is just after sex since her partner wasnt around. Dont give in to her again unless you just want sex from her but dont expect her to be faithful to you if things get serious.
2007-03-22 22:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by wana help 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you got rebounded. Forget her, or keep her for the friends with benefits. She's pretty much a typical example.
2007-03-22 22:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She seems to have issues and giving sex easily to people is the horrible thing. If you were my bf I would be very posessive with you. Never share you.
Bye
2007-03-22 22:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have no idea..
you'll know when she comes back, if she comes back..
then you will date her, get married and live happily ever after
Just wait and see....
oh, dont tell her your feelings till after you give her the ring or you'll be sorry
seriously..
2007-03-22 22:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she wanted to make it easier for herself to break up with him-if she did-or she was feeling lonely.However, even if she really likes you, long - distance relationships never work:when she goes back home you'll end up forgetting each other because you'll be caught up with real life issues...
2007-03-22 22:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by ele 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋