i met this girl about 7 months ago, she is canadian but her company sent her to work here in france for a year, anyway when i met her she told me that she has a boyfriend back in canada and they've been together for almost 5 years.
i didn't show her any interest and we started running into each other because we are in the same circle of friends and then we became very close and there was chemistry and so we agreed to become "Friends with benefits" but then we became even closer! and there was so much passion, and then she says she wants to be exclusive and we started dating for a while
at this point she tells me that she wanted to break up with her boyfriend even before we met.
so now she went back to canada to break up with her 5 years boyfriend and she'll be back in a couple of weeks
here's my dilemma:
did she hook up with me just to make it easier for her to break up with her 5 years or was she really interested???? and when she comes back should i give her some space or date!
2007-03-22 22:07:38 · 9 answers · asked by Slash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had to go back there because they were living together and she needed to take her stuff out of his place, and you can't end a 5 years relationship with a phone call!!!
but yes, she confessed to have had break-up sex with him!!! and she told me that i can sleep with other girls while she is away!!! God, i feel like a sucker!!!
2007-03-22 22:20:45 · update #1
Aren't you worried she'll do this to you someday too?
I have been her and I would stay away from me if I were the guy I cheated with!
She is only concerned with herself. She didn't have the decency to break up with her boyfriend of five years before she started sleeping with you. Maybe your head is a little cloudy-you were benefiting. But she didn't respect you enough to make things right between the two of you before she got you involved.
Protect yourself! Stay away!
2007-03-22 22:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by kgconcerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it's deeper than that.
She went back to Canada to have one last "break up" sex session with her boyfriend.
And furthmore, for all you know, her "boyfriend" in Canada could be another "friends with benefits" arrangement that she made.
Think about this. If she was so serious about you, she would have broken up with her boyfriend in Canada over the phone, and proceeded to start a relationship with you.
Instead, she kept her OLD BOYFRIEND waiting, while starting a "friends with benefits" arrangement with you -- which technically means she is cheating on her old boyfriend.
Now, you are the one waiting for her to return. And now you are wondering, "Am I the sucker of the week?"
To me, sounds like you are getting played. But this is your hot mess -- not mine.
2007-03-23 05:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three possibilities:
A: She is truly interested in you and has returned to Canada to break up with him. (which I somewhat doubt as one can do that sorta thing over the phone or by mail)
B: While you were typing your message on Yahoo, she is up there with him getting the pipe laid to her by her boyfriend and she'll play you both.
C: They will reconcile and you will be the one to get kicked to the curb.
Personally, I vote for B.
2007-03-23 05:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by endlessknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space for awhile .. for any guy or girl coming out of a long term relationship like to go have fun for awhile and just live up being single .. she may like you but still feels she has the right to be independent for awhile .. just give her time but just ask her what she wants ..
goodluck :)
2007-03-23 07:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by jessiii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By now u must be knowing her well enough then y are there this doubts..
Anyway let her come back u go out for sometime with her then u wl know for urself.
2007-03-23 05:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Vns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should date her but be always careful not to get too much involved in case she returns back to him.
2007-03-23 05:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by plutonas2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with her twice, then try talking to her to see where she stands on the issue.
2007-03-23 05:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by jeffprobst4242 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be careful and think wise! if u really like her so much and trust her feelings.... then you should keep u'r relationship fresh!
2007-03-23 05:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by fmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you!
2007-03-23 05:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋