I'm Obese... I have low self esteem...?

Question

I'm obese. I've always been chubby since young. I used to love myself despite the fact that i'm extra large. But lately, the society are so judgemental, they seem to have hatred towards obese people? Its as if i'm a different species and deserve different treatment. Why?? Now, I have very low self esteem. I'm uncomfortable around people because i'm always cautious of my looks. I've lost self confidence and its depressing. Why cant people accept me the way i am?

Answer 1

These "people" don't accept anyone the way they are, weight or age, etc. They may also not even be thinking what you think they are thinking. I hope you don't feel that badly about yourself.

But why can't you accept you the way you are? Really, and I am overweight and can get selfconsious too, but you are just like those people if you don't.

Do things that make you feel positive about yourself. Try just 15 minutes soft music and breathing, stretching, meditating or, and I tell you a beginners yoga class did wonders for me. All that breathing in and out evenly, and concentrating on stretching and feeling strong. And my body feels better, I haven't lost weight, and that isn't my yoga goal anyways, I have been more happy with my body and how I feel in it. Yeah, most people in the class don't have half as much weight to hold up as me, so of course it should be harder for me right? Actually other folks, even stick ones, have a hard time too. Get happy with your body, do something that makes you concentrate on you, not your weight.

The class worked best for me b/c the at home tapes put me to sleep. And the instructor is awesome and helpful. Besides everyone in the class is trying to meditate and destress. I keep my eyes closed 95% of the time, and I think most others do to.

I actually have a weight loss goal, and a different plan for that. I guess I really have a get healthy, mind body spirit energy, type plan, and weight loss just follows along with lots of other great side effects. Slow going, but going none the less...

Answer 2

To be honest with you I think there are a great number of over weight people that are good looking. its not how you look but how you carry your self. I don't treat over weight people badly because of their weight this isn't to say that an over weight person hasn't been treated badly by me its just not because of their weight... Its your health and if you enjoy being over weight then who am i to tell you to change I'm not a Dr and i have nothing invested in my telling you to loose it. I can give you an idea if you are wanting to loose weight though.......... eat 6-7 small meals a day this way your stomach is always full and you are less likely to binge and purge. make them healthy but don't forget a little fattening food it does help you to not feel guilty

Answer 3

you know girl its not your fault then, i know that it is difficult to move in a world where there are full of people who are so judgemental, people nowadays always look on the physical appearance of the people, you know you should not be affected, so what!? if you are chubby maybe there just envy with you, but you know you should not lose your self confidence then you must prove to them that even person like you can do the same thing as what other person can whether they are fat, thin obese or etc...., but if you really wanna lose or control your weight then consult a doctor on how you will be able to that, or just control your self instead of eating junk foods why dont you try eating lots of fruits and vegetables it will help you lose weight at the same time makes you healthy

Answer 4

Try losing weight, going on a diet n working out daily. Avoid junk at all costs n till u lose the extra pounds, just think ur unique n avoid thinking abt wt ppl wud thnk. Think dat how ppl wud compliment u after u have lost the extra fat! Good luck! I know u can do it!!

Answer 5

people like that are idots. .. i was never obses.. i weigh 147lbs and was 5 ft .. people kept telling i was fat so i went on a diet and went down to 119 and then they kept telling me i was to skinny.. then i went up to 140.. now they say i am to fat..sometimes when you have a weight promblem it can be heratiary.. sometimes it is tyroids..have your self checked out by a doctor.. my exsister was 5ft and weigh almost 350 and when all else failed she had that surgery .. by pass think it was called and the weight just rolled off her..but weather you decide to do anything or not.. you need to just forget about the idots in this world if god had intended us all to look alike then we would have

Answer 6

why can't you accept yourself the way you are?
judgement is a fear we have of ourselves, people who make fun of you have even less self-esteem. you need people around you who support you in you being yourself. I've forgotten what the world is like because i tend to avoid people. you know people are judging you even when you walk down the street, but it's just them. feeling bad about yourself, is the worst way to treat people.

Answer 7

I am feeling you are sending out your own negative vibes and more sensitive to other peoples reaction than you used to be. people can be like preditors (especially in groups) and hone in on your vulnerabilities. You should ask yourself how you want to feel about yourself and then get all the help you need to get that feeling! You have to start with youself right?

Answer 8

Take the Homeopathic Remedy AURUM MET(The Metal Gold) in 30X potency for your low esteem, works wonders. To read more about it please click the link below :- http://homeoint.org/books/boericmm/a/aur.htm
And if you are intrested in shedding the extra weight here are the Homeopathic Remedies to help you do it, with 100% results and 100% safety from side effects and complications :-

Homeopathic Treatment for Shedding Excessive Fat and Weight /Obesity :-

Tongue thickly white coated; patient feels exhausted in warm water Antim-crud.200X, 6 hourly

With unusual tallness in children; chilly patient Silicea 30X or 30, 4 hourly

When the tongue is constantly whitish coated; with liver disorders Kali mur.30X or 6X, 4 hourly

Fat, flabby and chilly patients. Profuse sweat on hand; worse at night, by exertion;easily fatigued; feet are cold and damp; craving for eggs; sensitive to cold and damp climate Calcarea Carb.200X or 1M, 4 hourly

Especially for fatty women approaching menopause; sensitive to cold weather; liver and spleen enlarged Calcarea Ars 200X, 6 hourly

Obese patient who suffers from constipation; flatulence; goitre or thyroid enlargements Fucus Ves, Q(Mother Tincture). 4 hourly,10 -20 drops

Intercurrent remedy; specially when obesity is due to thyroid disturbances Thyroidinum 200X or 1M, weekly (3 Doses)

Obese, chilly, constipated patients, specially in women when there is a history of delayed menstruation; prone to skin ailments; feels cold; easily chilled and easily overheated Graphites 200 or 1M weekly (6 Doses)

For fatty women; feels completely exhausted; (whether they do anything or not) Lac-def.200 weekly (6)

To reduce weight (flesh and fat); to make the muscles hard and firm Calotropis 30 or 200, 6 hourly

To absorb abnormal tissues; new growths and fat Phytolacca Berry Q(Mother Tincture) 4 hourly,10 drops Now its available in tablets form too very easily available in India and Pakistan manufactured by Dr.Willmar Schwabe Pharmacy, Germany

Obese patient with weak heart; sensitive to cold; aversion to water; habits of uncleanliness; prone to colds Ammon-Carb.200, 6 hourly.

No side effects or complications if taken as directed, please do not exceed the given dosage and under any circumstances do not try to mix any remedies and avoid Chocolates, Mints, Coffee, Red Meat, Alcoholic and Carbonated drinks, Spicy Rich Food while taking any Homeopathic remedies, and keep the medicines away from direct sunlight, heat strong smells and perfumes and do not store them in the fridge.


Take Care and God Bless !

Answer 9

Maybe you should read this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Academy_of_the_Sierras

I do feel sorry for you. I used to be a little plump but it just takes a little discipline to work it off.