i been dating this guy for like a year, we break up get together again, he almost never calls me, i always have to call him to talk to him, when i do he make up excuses to get off phone qickly, i love him with all my heart, i think he just be using me for sex, we together all we do is sex not hardly ever nothing else, don't get me wrong i like the sex, but he no tell me he love me when i say it to him, he tell me he care for me lots, or nothin at all, what with that? i not know, we used to talk all time, now hardly ever talk, no im no e mail not much phone, text, i had bad flu i tell him do he call me back to see if i am okay no he don't! it like he live in his own little world unless he wants sex then he come to my house or say to me to come over to his house, i not know what to do? help me please?
2007-03-22 21:48:43 · 13 answers · asked by heart2heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it, but sounds like your a booty call....not to be rude.
2007-03-22 21:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by alberthastings3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion, yes I think he is using you for sex. I could be wrong.
Try this, stop giving him sex, stop calling him, stop everything you have been doing with him, and if he calls you, tell him you are busy, unless he asks you to go on a date, (that doesn't mean his place or yours) a real date. Like to a movie or out for dinner. He sounds very boring, ask yourself what it is you like about this guy. Maybe it is just sex.
Personally I wouldn't waste my time with a guy like that, there are some really nice guys out there that are fun and have other interests besides the bedroom.
I think you do know what to do, take a step in the other direction, this guy is a loser and will only bring you down and break your heart if you continue this relationship. You have to think more of yourself, don't you think you deserve more? But maybe you don't, Is he that great in bed? If he is (I'm guessing he's NOT) Then I am wrong.
One more ? What do you and him do after the sex is over? Does he talk to you or snuggle or show interest in you now that he is satisfied? Are you satisfied??? These are all questions you need to ask yourself, because if there is nothing after wards, then yes he is using you.
Get rid of him.....unless the sex is that great!!
Good luck
2007-03-23 05:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by CAT LADY LOO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I'm actually still stuck on my former f*** buddy. It's sad, I know I'm better than he made me feel and I kinda still want him. The thing is, I know I'm better. Really there is something wrong with him for not wanting me like I want(ed) him. Chances are you're the same way-way better than this guy!
I'm now about 2 months out of it so here's my advice: Change his ringer to silent. F*** him! You probably answered everytime he called before, now let him wonder but don't call back!!!
Worried you'll miss sex? Don't, you could find anyone to "help you out" not that I'm recommending doing that because that would mean you were using somebody just as bad, it's just nice to know you have that kind of power.
Open your eyes up to all the other great guys out there! You'll do just fine once you have a chance!!!!
2007-03-23 05:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by kgconcerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KICK HIS SPOTTY LITTLE ARS*E 2 A HIGH 6 FT BARBED WIRE KERB!!!!!!!!!!!u desrerve alot better and if ur under some illusion that things r going 2 get better dey wont...its time 2 wake up now and stand up for yourself if you think that you are worth more dan that what in d name of god r u still doing with him????? break free and be strong 4 urself ...say no 2 sex with the dog!!
2007-03-23 04:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by Irishlass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer is staring you right in the face... GET RID OF HIM!!!!! at least make him want you. break it off and dont talk to him see what he does. if your afraid he wont do anything if you do break it off then definitely break it off cuz he doesnt love you. a person who loves someone cares about them and it doenst seem like he cares about you. i dont why im telling you this cuz most likely like an idiot you will end up having his baby and hate your life. well good luck.
2007-03-23 04:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by mel_sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really unnecessarily stuck on this one guy. It's evident he doesn't share the same feelings for you as you do for him. To prevent further problems, find someone else. It seems you are losing self-confidence and getting yourself in a situation that you should not be in.
2007-03-23 04:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET AWAY FROM HIM! I konw it is hard to hear...but he is using you as a sex toy. I'm a guy, so i know. Try to get over him...tell him him you are not his play thing and that as much as you care for him, you want someone who treats you better...Cause there are guys out there who are better...so go out with your friends and have fun...and if you meet a nice guy, get to know him... ;)
2007-03-23 04:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by YJIplayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He never calls you because it a part of the larger game you are both playing with each other!
"Why do you sound so surprised?" is the better question
2007-03-23 05:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing this to YOURSELF! Your lying down at his beckon call! If he's not calling you even when your sick, he does NOT care about you! You need to require more of yourself and stop letting him take advantage of you! WAKE UP, He's Just not that Into you!
2007-03-23 04:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the phone, there's no rack for me to look at while you're talking at me. I might accidentally have to pay attention to what you're saying, which really kills my mood.
2007-03-23 04:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by jeffprobst4242 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that I know how you feel but maybe you can tell him..Its over when the phone stops ringing...and move on I know its hard but believe me you are stronger than you think..Good Luck!
2007-03-23 04:55:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋