There is this girl in school that i love her but she doesnt know me i would have no reason to talk to her but i need to as a friend first of all and then we we get freindly i can ask her out but how do i go up to this girl very random and just say hi can we be friends she would think i was wired so how do i get friends with her??
2007-03-22 21:46:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she doesn't know you then you do not love her. You can't be in love with somebody if you do not know eachother. You may like her a lot but it isn't the same thing. Now, you can go and talk to her, find out what she likes and start up a conversation that way.
2007-03-22 21:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oof. No. Do NOT try and befriend her first. It feels safe, but believe me, you will stay her friend forever after.
You have to plan some scenario where you two will bump into each other. In some class, or somewhere around school. Just get a conversation going.
Now, no matter how short that conversation is, be sure to end it with this: "Hey, my friends and I are all going to [movie, club, coffee place, whatever you can get your friends to go to] later on, why don't you come along?"
You have to be sure it's during an actual conversation, of course, not just the two of you saying, "Hi" to each other. If you follow it up with the "my friends and I" bit, you're saying that you were already planning to go out and have fun.
What you're doing is relieving her of the pressure from a formal "date," and promising her a good time. What's more, it makes you sound less desperate - you are already capable of having fun without her, but you are being nice and seeing if she'd like to as well.
Just be sure you can corral your friends afterwards to go and do that thing. Let them all in on the plan, and make sure you can trust them - both to not spill the beans, and to not try and pick up on her themselves. Guys who are real friends know the score, and will play along.
Believe me, I used this all throughout high school. And don't sweat what everyone says about, "You don't really love her." I was where you are now, and I know what a craptactular situation it is. Just concentrate on winning, and don't give up.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 22:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
women ought to cry for many motives while falling for a guy - Out of delight, out of shock, out of the unknown. Love is an emotional rollercoaster and we many times have not got administration of our hearts. The preliminary feeling of love is so overwhelming now and returned that it is the only concern you could think of approximately...sometime that is to the factor of being nautious from the butterflies on your abdomen. That emotion would be expressed in different way reckoning on the guy...that includes crying. Others would have had their coronary heart broken and feeling that love returned ought to no longer in basic terms reason happiness yet additionally disappointment in understanding that the affection would possibly no longer final. Love is a loopy concern and makes people do unusual issues.
2016-10-01 08:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendship does not start with, "Hi, can we be friends?"
It just STARTS!
By the way, you are weird, but that's okay. We are all unique.
You don't love her because quite frankly you don't know her. You like her. Be careful with the word love. It denotes unwavering commitment and faithfulness and most people are not up to the task.
You become friends with her by being yourself and finding a common point of interest. If you don't know a common point of interest already then you REALLY couldn't love her!
Just remember, you don't want her to "fall for" a manufactured version of you. Then you have to be fake all the time and your subconscious will slowly start to eat away at you.
Finally, girls like men who exude confidence. I have rarely met a woman who said she was attracted to super shy wusses.
2007-03-22 21:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, know that! I think you should try something that only guys can get away with, something like, "Excuse me? Yeah, sorry, but you look kind of familiar... have I seen you before?... are you new to this school?... you seem really familiar... is there anywhere I could have seen you before?... Oh, sorry, my name is [here], I don't even know yours..." Just ramble on and be like, "Are you sure I haven't seen you somewhere before?" She will think about you in some way.
2007-03-22 22:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by tres_maqnifique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slowly rather than thinking about dating her...focus on getting to know her, be friends then possibly ask her out...
She will be your friend if she knows that you don't expect anything in return...
2007-03-22 21:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and talk to her tell her how you feel
2007-03-22 23:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LLLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOooooooovve heeeeeeeeer.
You mean lust? infatuation? you love her the same way you love your family?
2007-03-22 21:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by alberthastings3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋