ok... so me && me boyfriend been together for 3 years... but theres something wrong with me and holding grudges.. he had left me for about six months.. for this girl at work.. not to mention she was married and left her husband for my bf.. and i guess it didnt work out or whatever.. and he came back to me.. and i was in depression and i took him back.. and i think i should've waited.. i was pregnant and i did have guys that wanted to go out with me but i was really depressed... and now im back with my boyfriend.. and i cant let it go.. i cant let go of the fact that he left me for another girl.. everytime we argue about something small i bring it up i know its wrong but its something i cant control....what should i do?....
2007-03-22 21:23:16 · 10 answers · asked by Dee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best advice I can give is to do what you're doing - try to work it out for as long as you can. If you can't, then you should break up.
But don't talk about it only when you're fighting. Nothing productive is going to come from that. You need to sit him down and say, "I'm having this problem with what happened." If he won't talk about it, then you really don't have a relationship worth trying to fix anyway.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 21:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be terribly honest?..Once a cheater always a cheater..If he did it once,he'll continue to..Remember I told you so.. That's not the case though..You got back with him right? That means in essence you forgave him for cheating on you.. I know it sounds messed up,but it's true.Also,I have to understand how you were really feeling,taking into consideration that you were pregnant..I know that is one of the lowest blows in a womans life..He left you at a time when you depended and needed him the most..Imagine what will happen under your nose next time..The only reason he came back is because it didn't work out or worse,he just wanted to f**k...You know him best..Your worth more than he'll ever know..Sometimes time heals wounds,but in some cases as this one,it won't..You'll always bring it up and you'll always wonder if he's doing it even if he isn't..You'll never trust him the way you used to..My best advice is to take care of that beautiful baby and live your life,get your feet wet and meet other people..He did...Take care of you...The man will follow..
2007-03-22 21:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by blueboyswoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can forget about the fact that he left her, and now he's with you. Let go of the past. You can't do anything about it- so continue with life- each day as it comes.
2007-03-22 21:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one likes to play second best to anyone in a relationship, its normal as most women find the ability to forgive but they certainly never forget something like this.
-NmD!
2007-03-22 21:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say ?
What you have done is making me feel honored to answer your question. You are an exception, it's your wisdom that made you forgive him his act of shame of leaving you when you were pregnant.
He deserves doses of arguments to let him know what he did was highly irresponsible and stupid. But, don't torture yourself. Don't hurt yourself while arguing with him. Everybody learns, sometimes early, sometimes late. You being wiser, forgive his senseless act of immaturity. Thanks.
2007-03-22 21:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you once, he'll leave you twice. He will still be searching for someone to meet his satisfaction whatever it is for.
Get on with your life. There is someone waiting out there for you who deserve your love.
Always look for someone who sincerely wants to make you happy.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 21:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Coco2say 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he left you for some other girl, then he probably thinks you're just a last resort... tell him to F off and look for someone more faithful
2007-03-22 21:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by F1reflyfan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new pair of shoes ! he's gonna bail on you again !
2007-03-22 21:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
control your temper and meditate
2007-03-22 21:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by sudha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would scream, your shoes are too tight and they are cheep!
2007-03-22 21:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋