im 15 turninig 16 real soon & he is 18[[dont worry he BARELEY turned 18]].....we have been together for 10 months but i have known him for almost 2 years & he asked me to move in cuz he said he really wants to be with me......BUT..... i dont know what to tell my mom I dont think she will be too happy but i really wanna be with him too.... we have been through soo much...please i really need advice
2007-03-22 21:16:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still a minor & you mother will be furious.
Please just wait until you are 18. You can still be with your boyfriend without having to play house together.
What about you main responsibilities : School - Grades - Graduation - College - Work.
Why is it that teenagers want to grow up so fast. I'm all for Graduating College and getting a successful carreer when I was younger.
2007-03-30 17:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jan!3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm. I had a friend like this.. You know that you could prob's end up pregnant(unless you've already been there with this guy) and 2 years is not that long! I am a teenager as well as you but the difference between you and I is that I have logic, and I understand federal law.. This guy is no doubt a pedifile, and needs to stop asking you to move in with him. Be smart woman and get your butt in gear! Until you are 18 you cannot live with someone else unless your mother or father gives permission. if you run away to be with this guy then you could go to a juvenile facility. and we dont want that... smarten up girl... there are way better things out there.. like college.. Wait for college.... and then be with somone who you have known for at least 5 years. And right now ask your self.. out of all of the millions and billions of men on this earth why do I want to be with him?
2007-03-31 02:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsey_welsin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer using my own experience. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 + years before we moved in together. I am telling you it will be the hardest thing you will ever do. Basically it will test your relationship to see if you're ment to be together or not. I think you are a little young to be moving in with him unless you have no other choice (maybe family problems) but I would suggest that you wait until your at least 18. Being considered an adult will help you out a lot with everyday life and with telling your mom.
2007-03-31 00:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLLL NOO! You dont need to even consider this. First of all, guys at this age RARELY commit. Everything is all about fun. If you want him to take a ride on your 15 almost 16 yo rollercoaster go ahead. The ride will stop SOOOOON as he gets bored, baby! You'll probably end up pregnant, then there goes YOUR fun! So sad so sad! You are very much still a child even though you dont feel like it. You dont even have the capacity to know whats best for you at his age. Give yourself time to gain self-awareness. It takes such a Looong time, but well worth it in the end if you dont have too many life altering experiences that hurt you in the end.
2007-03-23 04:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT,U WILL REGRET IT LATER, TRUST ME.
u probably do love him and he probably loves u but moving in is a serious step theirs lots of responsibility involved in it from both sides, and u r so young u have ur whole life ahead of u wait a couple of yrs till u turn 18 maybe, and u'll find ur self a totally different person than u were at 15 and u whole view of life has changed....just give it some time u bf will understand...
2007-03-23 04:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by the_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you move in consider this....
-Does this offer fit in with your life goals?
-Does this offer make you change any plans to fit it in to the present?
-Does it make you lie to those you love?
-Does it make you sacrifice alot to keep it up?
You have to realise that what you do now will affect your future and if everything else in your future is unclear except love then moving in is a bad idea. You might face lessons in the next few months and years that shape you differently and then having someone in your space all the time is a pain. If your mom wont like the idea who says you will? If youre gonna play the wife role then you may as well just get married and if marriage is too huge a commitent to you then youre not ready to live in with your b/f.
2007-03-23 04:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, you don't only need love, you'll need money.
At the age that you are at, both of you will be "horny" so of course he'd really want to be with you.
But think about what would it be like in the future.
What about following this sequence:
love-> marriage-> home->family
If you don't wana follow the above,
Both of you should get an education 1st, be able to secure a comfortable life before moving in together.
But I know it don't matter what pple say cause in the end the decision lies with you.
2007-03-23 04:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by liliglorry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't easy to live together. There will b less privacy and definitely deeper commitments are needed. You may expect more problems too. But of coz' if both of you can go through the life of living together, it may also tell you that both of you may be suitable as married couple. Looking at your age, you are still too young and definitely not considering to settle down. Your parents may not agree as well. So Why not enjoying your freedom first.
2007-03-23 05:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take your time young buck! There's no rush. You guys are young and there is no reason to jump in and start acting like you're married. You've only known each other for less than a year, take your time and get to know each other a little better before you make that big step!
2007-03-23 04:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by delicioustrouble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, ur only 16 and he is only 18 just listen for a min, in my opinion u and him have to talk to ur mom and well listen to me if u want, i left home at 16 and started living with my boyfriend and well we had a kid 9 months later and well to make a long story short i should have thought of it a little more don't get me wrong i love my kids and all i just regret doing thing the wrong way so plz wait at least 2 more yrs.til ur 18 and if he really loves u then he'll wait for u but talk to ur mom and she may help u decide if it's the best thing for u and besides it's ur choice of wat u want
2007-03-31 01:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by holguin_margarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋