Why Cant I make friends??

Question

why cant I make any friends?? I have so many mental disorders -ADHD ( inattentive ), Social Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Bi-Polar Depression. I am a senior in high school and rarely ever had a friend in my whole life. I hardly ever talk to anyone but my teacher. I never had a best friend either. I feel so lonely and this makes my depression worse every day. I had so many thoughts of suicide and almost actually did it. I need help please I cant live in this world without friends or anyone who actually talks to me. Thank you very much for answering this question.

Answer 1

stop selling yourself short
display some confidence in your social interactions
talk about positive things
start focusing on the solutions to your problems, and not the problems themselves
People love talking about themselves - so ask them questions - let them do the talking! : )
get on medication and take it exactly as prescribed
drink your 8 glasses of water and eat right
don't forget to exercise
take baby steps toward goals and let your confidence build

you don't allow IM or e-mail, but i would like to talk to you - feel free to Message me on Messenger or via e-mail . I too have ADD, OCD, bipolar....and an education to back it up : )

Answer 2

Hi mr man.I have a bit of an idea what you are feeling.I also suffer from social anxiety and depression. Have you tried to talk to people your age or are you afraid they might reject you which will add to the anxiety.People won't approach you unless you meet them half way.I know it is hard because i am in the same situation.How do you manage at school with all these problems.Has your teacher given you any advise to help you make friends.Are you under the care of a good physician and are you taking any medication and have you told anyone about your attempt at suicide. If not you should see a good psychiatrist who can help you. I know this is not much of an answer but i hope it will help.I'll say some prayers for you and ask God to give you some friends.
Regards,Rob.

Answer 3

First stop feeling so sorry for yourself. Second try to socialize more even if you don't feel like it. Hang out around people you like and admire...don't continually talk about sad things. Even good hearted people get tired of others that don't try to a least make a decent effort to whatever it is they say they want. Just because a doctor or whoever said your this or that don't make the mistake of believing yourself so. Because then all you are doing is programing yourself to be a lonely person since you have taught yourself you have a hard time making friends and no one likes you. Tell yourself different start by saying. At the moment I may not have but I will have.

Answer 4

Mr. Man:

I'm so sorry this is such a tough time for you. High school can just be hell. What you'll notice (if you can take comfort from this) is that the people like you are the ones who, once they get into college really start to grow and find themselves at a little bit later age... and when I recently went back to a 35th (!!) reunion-- it was the little nerds like me who had great careers... who had moved out of town... who had done something with their lives.

And so it will be for you.

As for all your disorders--I'm assuming you're being treated.
There is a time we all reach when we come down to a moment and ask ourselves, "Is this who I want to be?"
And coming into a new friendships with this list of "who I am" is very off-puttng, as i'm sure your know.

Find something you like to do. join that club. Doesn't have to be one with the school,

I won't lie to you: depression is tough. But, remember, you're tougher.

There's another old saying that says, "You create what you defend against."

If you're walking into a situation with your "baggage" about how it's going to be, then, you've pretty much set the tone for the way you want to be scene.

Marianne Williamson talks a lot about this: We think that we want a half a person to hook up with our half and then we'll be
one happy couple. But that has a falacy written all over it.
Your work has to start on you. And when you meet new friends, you're going to have a lot more of you to share with them instead of just "your story."

Bottom line: its sucks to be in high school unless your the quarterback or the president of the student body.

You're neither. And you will be very thankful that you were not.

Good luck

Answer 5

Get rid of your depression first. Handle all your disorder. Your disorder and depression are the cause. The effect is you loose confidence in making friends.

I suggest some alternatives which I used long ago:
- Take tyrosine (a component of amino). It helps to boost your energy level and therefore motivate you.
- Take vitamin B & C to fuel your brain and combat stress.
- Get plenty of sun.
- Get plenty of exercise to sweat it out and pump oxygen into your brain. If you jog, run as fast as you can until you are out of breath before you stop.
- Analyze your diet. Not enough water or too much acid.
- Meditate by focusing your thoughts on your breathing. Meditate will strengthen your mind.
- Pray a lot. Have faith in the religion of your choice. Believing that someone powerful is willing to help you, strengthen your belief you will recover.
- Use auto suggestion first and last thing in the day : "Everyday in every way, I am getting better and better." Repeat the sentence any time your are free like traveling or waiting. Record and play it to yourself. Say it with positive feeling.
- Don't take anti-depression pills because the pills makes you sleepy but it does not help.

Try yoga with relaxing music in the morning and night. Your body is linked to your mind. Once your body feel great, our mind will improve.

Answer 6

The best thing to do to make friends is to be yourself and put yourself out there for people to get to know you!!! Only talking with your teachers is isolating you from meeting any potential friends. I really think if you try harder to befriend people they will warm up more. Maybe join some after school activities like sports, debate, or theatre. good luck to you!!!

Answer 7

what are you interested in? how about joining a club, not only will you meet new people but you will have something in common with them too. how about starting a group yourself, for people who also have your type of disorder. how about a penfriend? there are so many people out there who are badly in need of a friend too, you just need to find each other. when it comes to life, you have to go out and get it, it wont come to you. you sound like a smart kid, and i am sure that this time next year you will have so many mates ,you wont know what to do with them all. go out and find them sweetie, you deserve it. good luck.

Answer 8

I kind of have the same problem but I don't want friends; they're just dead weight to me. I'm always nice to people and smile at them, just keep them at arms length.
Are you seeing a psychiatrist and are you on any medications?
I guess if you really want friends find something you enjoy doing(art, sports, music, whatever), and see how that goes. I t helps to have interest in common.