im having a lot of trouble with my family, well just my brothers acually im seeing a guy who is 18 and i am 22 they wont stop picking on us its not about the age difference they just miss my ex who treated me badly ive had just about enough im at that point where i want to kill myself i cant stand them anymore, but i have a 3 year old daughter and i dont want to leave her with no one ive been trying to get a house so i dont have to put up with anyone anymore how can i stop them? its hard to get a house in this area at the moment help me!
2007-03-22 21:12:27 · 8 answers · asked by kelz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them their behavior is really bothering you. Ask them why they keep bringing up your ex who mistreated you.
2007-03-22 21:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brothers obviously liked the fact that your ex was treating you badly because their behaviour is not much better. Is there no one else in your house that could stop your brothers treating you like this eg: mum/dad? Would it be possible for your new boyfriend to put you up for awhile until you can get your own place? Other then that I would suggest you tell your brothers how they are making you feel even that you feel like you could kill yourself because of their constant abuse. Like you said you have a 3 year old daughter & she really is your first priority & it would be a bit selfish of you if you were to leave her by doing something silly. Maybe you could pick on them & their girlfriends even though I don't normally like to stoop to someone elses level but what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Best of luck.
2007-03-23 01:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that if they want to be treated the way he treated ou, then they can date him but as far as you are concerned he is history and you have no interest in him. I was in the same position a ouple of years ago and I remember telling my brother the exact same thing. As for the fact that they pick on you and your new bf - I think it is a case of just missing the old. Try and ignore them - and I know and understand this is difficult. Don't do anything stupid - as you say you have a 3yr old and she needs her mother. Just hang in there - I firmly believe that everything happens at it's own time and when it should happen - just keep looking for a place of your own. It will happen.
2007-03-22 23:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is normal to have a problem. Just be strong in facing it. God wont give you a problem if He knows that you wont be able to handle and solve it. Just call on His name because He is the ONLY person whom you can rely on. HE WILL never leave your side no matter what happens. So be strong. Leave everything to Him. Go girl, you can definitely make it. Never lose hope, Okey?!
2007-03-22 21:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by ettel_rahc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could always try talking to them and telling them how you feel. be sure that you let them see you are really serious about what you're saying. they're your brothers - meaning, they're your family. trust them to eventually understand. no matter how annoying or bothersome they get, when it comes right down to it, they still care about you and what you have to say. have a heart to heart talk with them. they have a right to know. sometimes, they just tend to overlook that kind of stuff and all you got to do is be honest with them. as your brothers, they love you too much to get you seriously hurt.
2007-03-23 00:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by changing_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant....seem like dis-functions is part of your family's....see if there are any kind of agency's you can go to that can help out a single mother finding residency ...also try your church....most of the time they will help...and get yourself out of that house as soon as you can ...its not about you any more you need to think about that little girl who is depending on you...killing yourself isn't the answer...its never the answer...and this 18 year old guy you are seeing...as long as he has a job, car and is independent then his age shouldn't matter..but if he's just another loser like your "X" then get rid of him to.....
2007-03-22 23:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ask them if you are suppose to stay with a guy who mistreats you just to please them. Tell them they are hurting you more than they realize.
2007-03-22 21:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stop. tell them how you feel.
2007-03-22 21:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋