Me and my dating partner are not yet boyfriend and girlfriend since she has to tell this one friend of hers who has feeling for her that she doesn’t have the same feelings for him that way. I have told her about how I feel about this now for some time. I don’t want to annoy her anymore but it really bothers me. I have told her recently again and she has said she doesn’t want to be pressured into doing this. We love each other but I don’t understand why she doesn’t tell him. Should I pull away from her…? I really don’t like to be put in this situation.
2007-03-22 21:12:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's stringing you along. You shouldn't wait around for her.
2007-03-22 21:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell her that you want to handle the situation for her? Why is this stopping you from beign boyfriend and girlfriend? I think she is seeing this person and you at the same time. Take some time off, tell her youre backstepping until she has made up her mind. Dont allow her to drag you along. You dont need to be kept on a string, last time I checked you werent a puppet!
2007-03-23 04:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hesitation is a bad sign, I think. If she was intensely interested in you, I suspect that she would be trying very hard to get you to be her exclusive boyfriend after all this dating. I don't know how long you've been with her, but if it's been longer than about 90 days I think she should have committed by now. It sounds to me like she's making excuses not to commit to you. Some women will date men they don't like in order to get free food and stuff until someone they prefer comes along . . . it sounds like your pseudo-girlfriend might be one of them. Don't jump to conclusions, but definitely don't spend too much time on her. Good luck!
2007-03-23 04:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise you to pull away from her, the same way you dont like being put in this situation its seems as though the feeling is mutual & perhaps she doesnt want to be the barrior of bad news, sometimes you gotta just roll with the punches, so what if he likes her, thats his problem & eventually he will get the picture, try not to get so frustrated about the matter & be confident in yourself & what the 2 of you share, dont give that other guy another thought, you are wasting time & energy dwelling on this fella when you should be showering her with love & affection....good luck..
2007-03-23 04:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her either she tells this guy or you do.. either way, the truth is coming out. If she fights with you over this, then you need to rethink the whole "I love her and she loves me" part. She may actually have strong feelings for both of you.
Is it possible that she's been feeding the same line to this other guy too?
Better find out asap.
2007-03-23 04:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't pressurize her. just talk to her one more time and tell her how she feels about the other guy and if she refuses to answer, then pull away because no one can have a dishonest relationship.
2007-03-23 04:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull away. She obviously has more than just friend feelings for this person.
2007-03-23 04:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some space and let her make a decision without her feeling like she been put in a tight spot
2007-03-23 04:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's playing games, by what im hearing it seems like she has feelings for this other guy and shes just not telling you
2007-03-23 04:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋