why is there too much breakdowns nowdays in relationships?

Answer 1

Because people are afraid of hard work and for a relationship to continue and to be happy can be hard work

Answer 2

Here's my theory. As children we were raised to believe in "Happily Ever After" fairy tales - the kind where, when people got married ( or, at least, got together) all their problems would be/were over. It's a very unrealistic and unhealthy view of a relationship that simply can't be done. That, coupled with a culture that is about instant gratification, a couple of generations that are much more "Me" oriented, and a world view that encourages the replacement of something that doesn't work with a newer, shinier something - instead of working on or fixing something we already have that is not going well all contribute to this trend.

Most people don't have the understanding and maturity to realize that a relationship means work and compromise. That rough times are something to go through and grow from, together, instead of something to make us give up. No relationship is ever going to be 100% perfect, especially 100% of the time, and expecting that leads people to blame thier spouses, or sometimes outside circumstances, instead of looking at what they can change about themselves and how they handle a difficult time.

When commitment to the concept of "better or WORSE" really mean something again, and the decision to commit to a relationship even (and most especially) when things seem at their worst - then fewer breakdowns will happen.

Answer 3

Some possible reasons for broken relationships today in no particular order:

(1) Lack of respect for marriage - People marry for better and never for worse as they say in their wedding vows.

(2) Divorces have now become the rule rather than the exception. Children of divorced parents indirectly learn that when a relationship has problems you just end it.

(3) Success of the Feminist Movement - Masculinity has become frowned-upon and irrelevant. The role of the father has begun to disappear.

(4) Most people are lazy and do not want to put any real effort into forming healthy relationships.

(5) People don't take the time to really get to know someone before they sleep with someone. They often believe sex equals love. More people are seeking casual relationships rather than more meaningful, long-term relationships.

(6) People want to keep experiencing the high they get from "falling in love." When the high ends, they get bored and look for a new relationship.

(7) Many people are confused about their sexuality. For example, a woman finally realizes she is a lesbian, so say goodbye to her current boyfriend or husband!

(8) Lack of communication...




Has anyone else noticed that answers that have any wisdom or good insight have been given thumbs down. That alone shows why there are so many broken relationships today.

Answer 4

No simple answers here, buddy but these are a few reasons:

1. "Self-Centred"
Today's culture is extremely individualistic, some would say self-centred. It's all about me me me. So people think hey, if I have to compromise or bend for someone else in a relationship then I might as well just jump ship.

2. Instant Gratification Culture
The truth is, the best things in life like love and relationships require a lot of work. No one really wants to admit that. Instead, we have been seduced by a culture of instant gratification that demands immediate satisfaction: if it hurts that one bit then drop it.

3. Women are more "independent"
Back in my mother's day, women were more dependent on their husbands financially and socially. Divorce was such a social stigma. Nowadays, days there are more women entering the workforce. Indeed, women are assuming more and more positions of leadership. Furthermore, society does not frown as much on divorce.

So, more women are emboldened to end a failing relationship because the social and financial costs are less than before.

Answer 5

Because many people are working and their jobs who some people hate and some people love. So the people who hate their because it is tiring then they breakdown relationships nowdays or normally even if a person is still not working it might happen nowdays any day. But the soultion is to be freinds and not harm anyone agian.

Answer 6

probably because there is no will to make a commitment longer than "for better" and not so much "for worse". Besides so many people seem to feel that they have a right to let others down, no matter how much they have invested in their life together. The easy way out is to cheat until your partner no longer wants to put up with the crap,and then you can blame him/her for dissing you for "no reason".. The grass allways seems greener on the other side of the fence. And when you discover that this is not true, its too late to repare. Egosentric behaviour ,plane and simple. Got to have it all!!!

Answer 7

Because people think about their own needs first now. When I hear questions about people running of and leaving their children and spouse for an affair because they are unhappy I am appalled. People look out for themselves first and seem unprepared to work for their families. And everyone always uses the reasoning that if they are unhappy their children will be too. This is true but will running off with another person make the children happy? It's just inconsideration on the parents part these days.

Answer 8

Because people come together for the wrong reasons! For a realtionship to last, the two persons involved must be willing to give and take. Problem is nowadays, when we say "give and take", it is usually only one person giving and one person taking. There is just not enough concern and care for the other person anymore. For relationships to work, there are no short cuts, no instant magical solutions - just plain hard working at accepting one another, faults and all, and always be willing to communicate and talk things out with each other.

Answer 9

Personally i feel its the society that we live in, and all the pressures that are put on people these days.No one has quality time to spend with their partners, as we are all too busy trying to make a living, run the home, bring up kids, worrying about money etc etc.years ago, people had less materially, but life was much more simple and basic, with far less complications than we have nowadays.people stuck together then.

Answer 10

A complex question, having diverse reasons.
Simplest reason:
Incompatibility, = When the man does not have an income + Woman does not have the 'pat'ability!
Both are constantly growling and tearing each other apart!
People need to relax.
R E L A X !!!
Slow down. Easy Does it!
Smell the flowers. Sing along together.
Find things lovable in each other, NOT find faults! Give at least 3 compliments every day. Say "I love you!"---to each other, NOT to other women!! Ha ha ha!--- twice every day!

Answer 11

Because people fall in love with romantic love. A lot of people seem to think knowing someone for a short time and being swept off their feet when they least expected it makes an okay basis for marriage, engagement.....it was really only puppy love.