me and this girl were best friends for about a year. that whole year she had a huge crush she describes it as "for a girl to like you this much is once in a lifetime". i didnt ever think of her as more than a friend until we started messing around during the summer and then at the end of the summer we got together. i gave her everything she could want. if she wanted something i bought it for her. i look around me and i see guys treating their girl like **** and they get more than i got from my girlfriend. i was always kind to my girlfriend and in return she never cared about my feelings, played with my emotions, ignored me, left me for her friends but i still loved her. our relationship got better and we were both happy. she never made time for me even though i drop any plans for her and always told her how much i loved her and appreciated me. girls wanted me but i didnt ever cheat on her even if she treated me like **** and constantly played with my emotions and never listened to me..
2007-03-22 20:33:26 · 18 answers · asked by robin c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was always there for her and supported her. people always told me to break up with her and that i could do better but i was in love with this girl and didnt want another even if i didnt ever get any from her. one day we got in a fight because again she didnt care about my feelings and didnt listen to me and we stopped talking for a week and i didnt wanna call her cuz i thought i she was wrong and she didnt wanna call me cuz she thought i was wrong. i went to go see her at work and she was treating me like **** for the first time in months she was ignoring me and was acting like she didnt wanna talk to me. i asked her if we could spend some deserved time together and she said yes but at last minute she said no and i got very angry and later that day she called me and broke up with me because she said she realized she didnt love me. even if i could do better, even if girls want me i cant get over her. my friends tell me find another girl but im finding it hard to stop thinking abouther
2007-03-22 20:33:49 · update #1
i need help i cant stop thinking about her even if she is a ***** to me i was right nice guys finish last because i used to be an asshole (this is when she liked me) and when i became nice i finished last and got nothing i want. i see guys being complete assholes to girls and they get more.i seen complete assholes get better girls than me. i tell myself to go back to the old ways but i cant help but be nice to girls but IT ISNT WORKING OBVIOUSLY people tell me ill find a girl wholl love me back and treat me the way i should be treated but TALK IS CHEAP. i want to move on but i dont know how to forget about her she told me she loved me and i fell in love with her but our whole relationship was one big lie I WANT TO MOVE ON FIND A BETTER GIRL OR SOMETHING PLEASE HELP ME
2007-03-22 20:34:06 · update #2
Find someone else.
It takes men about 3 weeks to get over a relationship. It takes women 1 to 2 years. Be glad you're not a woman.
2007-03-22 20:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel for you man, I really do. Been there in exact same situation where a long term friend became my girlfriend. What you got to remember is that you are in love with the girl she used to be, not who she is now. Would you have gone out with her if she treated you like that at the start? No!! Hard though it is you have to accept people change no matter how much we don't want them to. At the moment you are looking at her with rose tinted glasses remembering the times she made you happy when most times she made you sad. When I remember my ex and feel sad I just then remember how she treated me and how good I was to her and then think that she didn't deserve me. I've tried going back to my old ways again but then I just feel really bad and guilty as one it is not who I really am and two, why should I treat someone that way when I know how upsetting it is for the other person? I think you better be careful too as I think you may be spiralling downwards quickly towards deep depression beyond grief. It is normal to grieve but when days turn into weeks then months it is not normal. If that happens please get counselling and consider treatment with your doctor. Only talking as one who has been through it myself. Like the others say, go out with friends and try to have fun. You won't feel like it at first but after a while you will be surprised that you actually end up enjoying yourself. In my experience when I am not "on the prowl" that is when I get noticed and even though I am not in the right frame of mind to consider dating it does do wonders for your self esteem too to know that there is nothing wrong with you, just that deep down you know that you two were not ever going to be a happy match. I think the crux of the problem is you were happy when you were physically with her but I bet every moment away was full of worry, hurt, etc as to why she was not calling you, answering your messages, changing plans. Hurts mate I know, but don't change who you are. That will hurt more
2007-03-23 03:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Gordon g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk may be cheap you may not believe you will ever find another girl.
But as girls mature they realize that the sensitive guys are the way to go, trust me girls get sick of the guys that treat them like s-h-i-t it is a james dean sort of trip they get high on the bad boy crap, but that is only a phase which some girls don't even go through.
So hang in there you will find the right girl who will love you back just think about the worst things about your ex over and over until u hate her and then you will be able to appreciate your next relationship a whole lot more.
2007-03-23 03:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that first things first. Take some time away from her this situation and the place in general and try to explore what else is out there for you.Get back in reach of what made you happy while you were single.I am NOT talking about booze and strip clubs.Booze doesn't help it just makes things hurt worse when you get back around.Try find things that bring you true, pure , happiness. Women are fickle creatures and don't always know their hearts any more then you do all the time.Take some time heal up and then, when your ready try for someone new.
2007-03-23 03:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by devillayingbyyourside 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man. I feel the same. My guy just broke up with me. I long time ago I dated a guy who gave me and thought of me as his world. Then I learned too late and lost him. I swore I would treat the next guy SO good, and I did. But then this most recent ex and I lacked essential relationship elements and it drove me nuts. Like you, friends told me I could find better-one who will actually give and treat me like how I deserve. I never cheated on him, I never asked him for anything and did SO much for him, but he didnt seem like he appreciated me as I deserve. I think towards the end, he was starting to text and get texes from a classmate even before we were completely over for good-SO inconsiderate. !!! I was SO hurt. I'm still trying to get over him, and I have a guy pal going thru what you are going thru-he and YOU deserve and WILL find a better girl!!! I understand it is difficult right now, it is still difficult for me too. NO one deserves to be crapped all over for being nice to someone they love.
2007-03-23 03:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invested alot of time and effort in this girl. It's gonna take time to get over her. Your friends just want you to be optmistic about going out with other people. You certainly cant just sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Make some plans to go out with your friends, don't talk about her. Put your mind on other things. Tell yourself that you were the best person you could be with her (dont regret the experience) and if she's a Biitch, it's her loss!
2007-03-23 03:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news for you bro, you don't "get over" that, you learn to live with it. A sad but true aspect of life is that no matter how much you love someone, there is no guarantee that they will love you back. There is nothing more heartless than a woman who doesn't love you, and the worst part of it all is that no matter how much you love them, it doesn't matter, your done like dirt. Your best bet is to sack up and move on, because it was over before it ever began. Blogbaba's have been there, it's why we are blogbaba's and non-baba's want to be like us.
2007-03-23 03:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really force ur self to not think about her. But before you do that you should feel miserable for a little bit before you start the healing process. Feeling like **** will make you realize that u need to do whatever it takes to get over her. You can't be a loser sitting around crying about ur ex! Take a few days, feel like ****... cry or whatever u want to do.. then make a conscience decision to get over this girl. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 03:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by nutterbuttersoymilk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say there are a lot of girl's like that. They are the ones that give the rest of us a bad name. And you said it. As to getting over her, get some ice cream and some great movies and get drunk for a weekend. Eventualy it won't hurt so much. Make sure to get the ice cream though. Best part of breaking up is getting ice cream and eating it like crazy til you get better!
2007-03-23 03:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by firey_aries_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just need to try and stay away form her and go out with your friends and party/hang out, just have a good time, and you will realizes that you can have fun with out her and you can fine some one else who loves you back after time you will forget and move on
sorry man.
2007-03-23 03:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by andrew c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋