My boyfriend and I have been dating since highschool for about ten years now, we have separated off and on...but I have been faithful to him all these years!
I have converted to his religion, and I truely love to do things that he loves. Our familes don't get along could this be a problem? I really want to have a family, and be with him officially, but he just likes things the way they are. I'm thinking about trying to get pregnant. I have stopped taking the pill.
I love him sooooooo much!
2007-03-22 20:15:44 · 11 answers · asked by Gail Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question: Will you marry me?
2007-03-22 20:22:55 · update #1
Oh this will back fire on you and he will leave you....
2007-03-22 20:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO,NO,NO,NO,NO - DO NOT try to get pregnant. This won't work. If you get pregnant only so he will ask the question and he never does, are you ready to be a single mom?
You need to think about the child.....and your future. So this is a poor option.
If he hasn't asked you to marry him, perhaps he is not ready. Have you had a deep conversation about this?
If your commitment is REAL......TRUE...... marriage is really only a piece of paper. If he is faithful to you and you are faithful to him and you have excellent communication and you have a relationship that is healthy, meaningful and functional.... enjoy it.
Putting pressure on him or giving him the ultimatum is NOT a good thing and puts a strain on your relationship. ASK HIM WHY he likes things as they are. You may get some solid answers.
You may want to take a step outside of your relationship and really examine it. Maybe he doesn't want to get married because he is afraid that the good relationship you have will die somehow and expectations, boredom, and a rut will settle in.
Lots of couples who have been together as a couple for a LONG TIME and then get married, usually get divorced a short time after, because the relationship changes. Ask him if he is afraid of this.
If he doesn't want kids, then you need to really examine this, too. If you don't want the same things, marriage is not the route/path you should be headed on.
You both have to be happy. It's great you love him so much. But love yourself, more....... ask yourself if you are content with your relationship as it is. If it is not working for you, having a child won't change him or the relationship or force him to accelerate it toward marriage.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-22 20:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by The Answer Monster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing guys hate is when you stop taking the pill to "trap" them in a relationship by sneaking around to get pregnant. I'm not saying you are I just have a few friends in the situation right now. NOT PRETTY! Me and my ex were together for 8 years and he never seemed to ask me.. but he would talk about marriage.. finally when he did propose.. about 2 months later he cheated on me. I hope you have better luck then I did. I'm sure if you talk to him about it more then he will want to. But I'm not positive... sorry I couldn't have been more assistance to you.
2007-03-22 20:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by missnmyhuny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back on the pill, girl. Do you really want to have to raise a child by yourself? Tell him that you feel it is time to make a commitment. You have waited long enough. If doesn't know what he wants by now, he will never know. Sounds as if he is avoiding commitment. I had one for 12 years that did the same. I had to leave. Even then he mad no attempt to make one. He wants to be my friend. He wants my company, but he does not want to seal the deal. I finally told him to make a decision. He said no, I said bye! Things are much better for me now. I don't feel taken for granted any longer. Think about it.
2007-03-22 20:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wait for him to propose to you. Just ask him about it. I'm sure very few people in this world is telepathic. And maybe he didn't know you would like to get married. If he's not interested in marriage and it's something that you feel you have to do, get another boyfriend. If you love him too much then you have to compromise. It's give and take.
2007-03-22 20:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by liliglorry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh great...so you try to "trick" this guy into marrying you? What a wonderful way to start a marriage...based on a trick. That's not love honey, that is desperation, that's obsession...you don't love him if you're willing to try to trick him into getting married and having a family...
2007-03-22 20:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, family revelation is a problem for two lovers, but in your two case remaining faithful to each other, i think nothing could separate you two, i mean hello two years, good for you two.
well if your thinking about getting pregnant well then tell them, if you became pregnant hwo knows maybe your family and his will get along by means of the baby,.!
so good luck for you two both,.!:)
2007-03-22 20:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by igel manalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit down with him and tell him what u think should happen and what u want it this relationship. and if he truely loves u as much as u love him then u will work this out and u will both win in the end
2007-03-22 20:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The blogbaba is not dear Abby and love has nothing to do with it. If he loved you there would be no question, you would know, men don't beat around the bush when we are serious (pun intended).
It's not you. Any more questions?
2007-03-22 20:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET BACK ON THE PILL!! You don't want an "accident" by surprise. Talk to him about the "m" word.
2007-03-22 20:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by thecooldk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What "question" you mean for a 3some.
2007-03-22 20:22:02 · answer #11 · answered by CPPP0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋