how do i deal with my moms death?

Question

my mom died about 3 months ago of breast cancer. i don't know how to deal with it. i don't know what to do i'm getting mixed feelings

Answer 1

i'm so sorry for your loss.would your mom want you to be so unhappy? no. you might want to get counseling for your loss. pray for her. and remember when the sun shines she is smiling down on you. shes not there in body. but shes with you in spirit. god bless and good luck

Answer 2

There are support groups for you where you can meet with a lot of other people who have been also trying to deal with the devastating loss of a loved one. No one but you knows how you feel but you are not alone in this at all. Support groups allow you to talk it out with others who have been through the same or similar situations & pain & confusion. Also maybe you could help someone else which may be just what you need right now.
Contact your Breast Cancer Assoc. or local hospital for info. Hang in there it will get easier.

Answer 3

My mother past away from stomach cancer 10 years ago, and I must admit the first year was the hardest. You loved your mom and your mom loved you, and it's the most life-changing, painful, and uncertain thing to live through. However, you will overcome the pain even if it doesn't seem possible right now. Everyone loses someone they love at some point. Sometimes this happens earlier, sometimes later. However everyone also finds a way to move on. Behind every dark cloud is a rainbow, and your mother's love will help carry you through this dark cloud to see another happy day.

Answer 4

seek grief counselors to talk with.im so sorry about your loss.i lost my 33 yr old sisterin a horriblemva she was a passenger.that was 12 09 05 i still hurt,have anger and other mixed feelings.dont let anyone tell you that there is a "certain " time frame to get over this loss there is not everyone grieves there own way and in there owne time im still going through it its been 1 yr3 months and 15 days since we lost kelly.there will be good and bad times.youll be sad but other times youll laugh,dont feel guilty about either.keep your memories.but you do need to move on but take your time doing it everyone is different with grief,but i dont know your age,which could make a difference in the support you need,just speak to someone pastor etc.my messenger is [e-mail] feel free to email if you want.god bless you and your family.may god be with you and help you through this tough time

Answer 5

First, let me say that my heart goes out to you---cancer is a horrible way to go, and I, too, lost my mother to it (in her case, colon cancer).

Although many people expect to be 'prepared' for the death of a parent, in truth, it still hits like a steel-toed boot to the stomach. What helped me, besides the passage of time: GRIEF COUNSELING. Being able to sort through your feelings, and to acknowledge the ones that surprise you (I was stunned by the overwhelming anger I felt) can go a long way toward healing your broken heart. Give yourself permission to 'feel' what you are feeling; set aside some time (birthdays, Mother's Day, special anniversaries) to honor the memory of your loved one, and to focus on the good memories that you have of your time together.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear the sad news but hey, its been 3 months now and you should look forward to a brighter day. Cheer up. If your mom sees you now in this condition, she will be very sad too. So life still goes on and you got to live for her. Remember her spirit is with you and she is listening to your every prayer. Take care.

Answer 7

I lost my father when I was 13yo - he was my favourite parent - never saw eye to eye with my mum who became a real cow.... but I still talk (kinda like pray) with him everyday (was 25+yrs ago) and I know he is guiding me... You just have to remember the good times you had with her and thank her for those memories. You will be sad for a long time for her loss, especially when you have special occassions but if you are aware that she loves you and is sending you guidance and love from heaven, you have an angel all of your own which is even betta than a guardian angel.... Pray for strength from God and love and support from your family and friends. I wish you well. God loves you and will open many many doors for the loss here.

Answer 8

My father passed away when I was younger- and I'm still having issues. I would highly suggest getting counseling. Loosing a parent is one of the hardest things to go through in life- you need to seek out all the help and support you can get. Talk about your feelings with people you can trust: friends, family, someone at church (if you're religious). Talking about it helps a lot. and memories- always talk about the memories you've had with her, she'll live on in your heart forever.

my condolences

Answer 9

First you have my deepest sympathy on the death of your mother...no matter what our parents die from whatever the circumstances it is so painful. After all they gave us life and it's the hardest thing to accept and have peace in our hearts about.

There are no set rules how we deal with death. It helped me to join a "bereavement group" of people who were also grieving the death of a child or parent or any loved one. You can call your local health dept. or a religious group...or local hospital and ask if they have groups that meet once a week or so. It really helps. People sit around and talk about their loved one and how they miss them...and what kind of person they were...it is a place to open up with the same people like yourself.

When our daughter died unexpectedly....it was such a shock and the loss really never goes away....you trust God to help you accept the death and ask for courage and strength to get through each day.

You can always do something in memory of your MOTHER...if she had a love for animals...you can buy something and give to the humane shelter in your city.....if she loved flowers you can plant something in her favorite color in your yard and when you look at it it reminds you of her.

Don't hold your feeling inside of you...let them out....tears are a way of releasing that loss you feel so deep. My Mother died in 2003 she was in her 90's and I often sing songs she sang to me as a child...it warms my heart thinking about those times we had together before she got older and sickly.

What we have left are the memories...and when we look in the mirror we see our loved ones..right in our own face. We inherit their ways ....of doing things their habits rub off on us. when I go into the kitchen I often think this is how "Mama" did it....and I smile inside. I feel these memories keep our Mothers close to us.

Time also helps mend your heart at this time it's so fresh the loss.....you feel like you were hit by a car..and you are still aching and feel lost....but as time goes by with your faith and courage to live a life your Mother would be proud of...you will survive this loss and be the best you can be. In doing for others you will find peace also....it helps get your mind off yourself when you are reaching out to help others when you are up to it.

I hope my words help you ....and you are not alone all families have to go through this but at the time you are experiencing the death you feel alone...others feel for you and hope your pain of losing your Mother will turn into thanks for you having her for as long as you did.

With deepest concern for you....
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 10

Accept that your mother is rest in peace now and pray for her. Always remember that God has a reason why He took your mother. Try to go out with your friends/brother/sister/father sometimes, play games, watch TV. Ok. Hope I can helped. God Bless.

Answer 11

Sometimes it takes awhile for all of the feelings to come out. Talk to your friends and family about it. You might get some good advice here, but it will mean more coming from someone you trust.