I was homecoming queen in h.s. and college....I am graduating with a degree in Chemistry from UCLA and going to med school.....why do people hate the successful ones
2007-03-22 19:44:11 · 12 answers · asked by Gail Michelle 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Wow you are a goddess. Everyone bow down to the new goddess of the world!
2007-03-22 19:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by truthyness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know...I mean, really, sometimes it can get so frustrating. I graduated as Prom Queen, captain of the trackc team, and second in my class last year, and some girl I never knew had the audacity to come up to me and call me a b**** after I recieved my diploma
These days, I believe some people hate the successful ones because it's the successful people that have something that was unattainable for others. I find myself jealous of my older sisters, as they both have found the perfect things in their lives -- stability. I have no idea what I am going to do with my life from here on out...
I think the biggest reason the successful ones are hated is because it's a constant reminders to other of what they could have been. Just like how many are successful, there is always someone better than you, be it in looks, money, love life, etc.
2007-03-23 02:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by heartless.hypothermia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may the overly high opinion you have of yourself? You may want to ask yourself how much humility do I have? It's always the person that can laugh at themselves, that are most honest of who they are and most attractive to a wide population. The most beautiful and intelligent person can be unattractive because of what they emanate to others. You have to BE a friend to have friends. Most people uphold and applaud others successes if they are kind, caring and genuine. Look up the word disingenuous. You may be thinking of impressing others with looks and your successes rather than finding out about them and saying little about yourself. Training to do that now, will help you as a doctor. You can't listen and learn when your listening to your own voice and about your own accomplishments.
2007-03-23 02:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Inquisitive 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know, that's an interesting question. In my experience people usually don't hate those who are just SLIGHTLY successful - Usually, it's the people who are EXTREMELY successful that generate spite. This is due to several phenomena.
first of all, extremely succesful people must often sacrifice attention to others and devote more concern to themselves to maintain their own success, and therefore come across to others as conceited and closed-off.
Another factor is envy of successful people. The more successful someone is, the more it highlights the inadequacy of the people around them, and people don't like to be reminded that they aren't as good at something as someone else.
The best way to counteract that is to embrace your weaknesses - Show others that you are willing to share your weaknesses or laugh about them. Sadly, this is part of what made George Bush so popular earlier in his presidency. He recognized there were many things he wasn't good at, and that recognition made him seem more approachable and likable to many Americans. (enough to re-elect him).
Another example is Martha Stewart. Her prison term made many people like her, because they connected to her suffering.
However, suffering and vulnerability doesn't always pay off with sympathy or friendship. For example, I doubt you'd suddenly be much more popular at Med School if you showed up with a broken leg and crutches.
Your vulnerability has to be something related to a connection with other people. It must come up in conversation, or it must come up in recognizing and vocalizing that others are better at something than you are.
People are weird.
2007-03-23 02:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerBlaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't hate you: if they are jealous, you have done a good thing by motivating them by your high performance, jealousy being a good motivator! Be proud of your credits and credentials, keep it up, don't worry too much about lack of appreciation from a few others (if that is what worries you right now!). Look ahead, you are going to be a great doc very soon!
2007-03-23 02:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
maybe they don't like your arrogance or your attitude. Try smiling more and being extra friendly and if they still are jealous or hate you who cares your better then them.
2007-03-25 03:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Adorable B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hate. When you fall, it will be long, when you realize you can't cure your own mortality.
Good luck., and harm no one, as you go about your travels.
2007-03-23 03:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey..i ain't mad at ya. congratulations. i'm sure you worked hard for your degree, and God made you beautiful, you had nothing to do with it.
2007-03-23 03:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulation. I'm happy for you, not jealous. More power to you.
2007-03-23 02:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think ur clever enough to beat them up. so they are jealous of u.
2007-03-23 03:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by RONNY 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋